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Fuck. All of these comments helped, but yours nailed it. It’s exactly right. I cried a little.

I’m tired of the mood swings, the walking on egg shells, being told what was said to be okay one day is now bad the next so he’s now angry with me.

This just happened too! I was running late for an appointment on Friday and let him know. I didn’t ask him to, but he did some chores for me. I thanked him and got a “we’re partners and we support each other”. Come Sunday, he’s angry I was late and he “had to do those chores for me”. He didn’t. I CANNOT wait to divorce this bastard.

I am in individual therapy, which is what led me to move out. For so long there was this hope against hope that he’d get his act together, and he did a bit, just little bits here and there, but never enough to be a good or safe spouse. After this, I’m done.
No kids, thankfully. We did have a pregnancy that ended in miscarriage and I feel terrible that I’m so relieved at the moment.
This isn’t the first time this has happened, just the first in years because I refused to let him drive with me in the car. This is also the last time this is happening. We’re absolutely divorcing.
We’re absolutely divorcing. I think a restraining order is a good idea too, thank you.

Funny, because that was the deal after his aggressive driving almost caused a serious accident. I refused to let him drive if I was in the car for years. He promised to do better in therapy so I was giving him a chance. This was our third car ride together.

Done.

Tell me I'm not overreacting

https://lemmy.world/post/44336792

Tell me I'm not overreacting - Lemmy.World

I am feeling insecure and scared right now. My husband of ten years and I have been separated for about a year. Things are up and down but we’ve been seeing a therapist. He has a history of aggressive driving. Today, he was driving fast, then passed a slower car in a no passing zone going 30 MPH over the speed limit. It scared me. When I said something, his initial response was “either I passed them or I was going to be angry behind them the entire time”, then later that he should have warned me first. No apology. I felt uncomfortable so I asked him to pull over. He did, and I explained I felt unsafe so I’d be more comfortable if I drove for awhile. He refused and told me “I just don’t care about your safety or comfort right now”, then explained it was because he was angry with me about something that happened earlier. What. The. Fuck. He’s angry so my safety isn’t important? Fuck you, dude. I told him I’d get a ride to my house and left the car. He got angry and called me ridiculous and melodramatic, ordering me to get back in the car like I was a child. I started to walk away so he yelled insults at me and ridiculed me. I was so embarrassed. My friend picked me up and took me home. My car is still at his house. He texts me later, telling we he’ll move it to a nearby street and tape the key to the wheel well. I ask him not to and he ignores me. Then he says that he’s thinking he might stop therapy after “my behavior”. That’s right: this motherfucker is mad at ME for walking away when he said he didn’t care about my safety after I tell him his driving is scaring me. He didn’t apologize for any of this beyond “I’m sorry things went the way they did”, then began texting about his hurt feelings. I was writing this to ask for a sanity check but after reading it I know I’m now getting a divorce. Fuck.

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Yet those constituencies are consistently manipulated to act against their best interests by rallying cries and similar polarizing behavior, and pointing it out goes as well as it did here. Most days, I question if humans are intelligent enough to govern themselves. Evidence increasingly points to no.