@neatchee I'm not sure that's the proper order of priorities, but I get that being this community admin you hold special responsibilities. I also don't agree at all, and this time without reservation, about not having the right to access everything in the Fediverse.
But I'm not blaming you for this, I blame Mastodon(?). To me it would be reasonable to have an instance-level banlist like we have now, but users should be able to override that and access whatever they want. Of course users staying with the default would not see any of my interactions with banned instances.
Mind that this is just food for thought, I know it's not up to you :)