Shel For The PublicSep 13, 2017

Hey friends it's your favorite Righteous Preacher of the Holy Word here to remind you Yet Again about Lashon Hara.

Lashon Hara is a despicable sin condemned by HaShem the god of the Jews. It is when you spread bad things about people which may be true but which have no useful or productive purpose to be brought up. The classic example is bringing up a mistake someone made a while back which they have since already apologized and atoned for, and have not made again. It hurts community and hinders learning

Show threadShel For The PublicSep 13, 2017

Mastodon's userbase may lean older than tumblr or so but many people on here are still young and don't advertise it; and also no matter how old you are you can still be in a process of learning.

After someone has already been confronted, been held accountable, made up for their hata (sin, literally "going astray"), and we've all moved on without another incident, we should acknowledge that this person has learned from their mistake and bring it up again only if they transgress again

otherwise why do it

Show threadMatthew SkalaSep 13, 2017
@shel Is there meant to be a connection between these paragraphs?
Show threadShel For The PublicSep 13, 2017
@mattskala which two?
Show threadMatthew Skala
@shel "Mastodon's userbase may lean older..." and "After someone has already been confronted...". Since writing that reply I saw that this item is part of a longer chain, so it seems less completely out of context (in a longer piece there's less need for two consecutive paragraphs to relate to each other), but it still seems like an abrupt switch between two unrelated topics.
Sep 13, 2017 at 3:42pmWeb
Show threadShel For The PublicSep 13, 2017

@mattskala No they're related. It's a way of saying "we can all grow and learn and just because you're used to a median age of 26 doesn't mean that someone who makes a mistake might not be a teenager who needs to learns"

"We all need to grow and learn, and so we should move on after something is addressed to let that happen"

Show threadMatthew SkalaSep 13, 2017
@shel Okay. The idea that youth would be an excuse doesn't come naturally to me, so neither did the need to refute that excuse. (strange that this didn't appear as a reply when I first posted it)
Show threadShel For The PublicSep 13, 2017

@mattskala so like, when you're 16 physically you're basically an adult and mentally you could raise yourself but the point of having this adolescence middle period is to give you a time to fuck up a whole bunch and learn without having severe consequences for the rest of your life because we go "Ah, you are new to this Life thing still, you will learn" and give a pass

at least in theory obviously lotsa things get in the way of that