"We need controversy and debate to grow" - not if you're exhausted from having the same bad faith argument with some dipshit rando for the billionth time, about an issue that affects you deeply and daily but is merely a thought experiment to the other person.
@jplebreton I would argue it's even more insidious than being a thought experiment to them. Many simply find it fun to antagonize and demean, as though it's literally a game despite human rights and dignity being laid on the line politically. Quite frankly, to outright name the beast, every alt-righter/alt-liter I've interacted with has disturbed me to some extent.