@BryanLunduke Society is so polarized these days that we probably need to resort to anonymity to start discussions on sensitive topics. There needs to be an ombudsman type of role to enable and manage anonymous discourse.

I've made my rather dim view of "the memo" known. In any case I not only defend his right to say it but Google's right to act in response as they see fit. Does not mean I think either did right. Google foolishly decided to pour petrol on the fire instead of contain it.

@msh @[email protected] I feel like once the memo has spread to a gigantic workforce and hit national news and people are saying they'd rather quit than work with someone who doesn't see why bringing up castration, neonatal testosterone, and "biological differences" isn't appropriate in a workplace, your hands are basically tied and all of employment law says unless the person is immediately repentant it's time to cut them loose.

@wilbr @BryanLunduke Though I found the memo distasteful myself I was still quite alarmed at the level of reaction, but I am also accustomed to a very different workplace environment (construction in heavy industrial sites like refineries) where language is, let's say, FAR less diplomatic and more blunt.

But it does underscore the need for such "nerds" to have some sort of support and education related to such discourse and an anonymous yet moderated and trusted outlet for such discussion.

@msh @[email protected] testosterone-laden physical workplaces are definitely very different from diverse office jobs. I've been using family analogies like Thanksgiving Dinner a lot lately. It's not that you don't have free speech, it's that we're here for a purpose and we're not gonna get distracted by one person's weird ramblings.

More to the point, productivity in "knowledge" jobs is very dependent upon not getting distracted. Opposite of physical jobs. Weird ranty memos are not cool

@[email protected] @msh I can build a house with a person who I'd never have a beer with, because you can just shut up and throw 2x4s at each other all day and it's fine. Not so in complex abstract systemic teamwork projects. If we can't trust each other and communicate well, we might as well both find new jobs.

@wilbr @BryanLunduke It's REALLY apparent you haven't worked in construction, commissioning or startup of commercial or industrial sites. In my experience they are more complex than any given software project because of their multidisciplinary nature. And trust and communication is a matter of safety.

But I agree, such a memo where I typically work would warrant disciplinary action. But less due to causing offense and more for being an inappropriate forum for the topic in general.

@msh @[email protected] it's both, the offense part is because it directly pertains to hundreds of coworkers.

I've done IT work for a developer, I'm not saying distraction is less dire, I'm just saying that the gruff, succinct, and occasionally ragchewing bearing of a construction site is disruptive in an office of programmers for half a dozen reasons.

My last gig they moved me next to a retired Marine salesman. I had to get noise cancelling headphones and ducked out of lunch early.

@[email protected] @msh and while I personally can survive someone saying shit like "40% of women lie about rape," if there was a woman in the office to hear such a thing I would side against him to HR. There's just no place for that kind of stuff in a collaborative, professional environment.

@wilbr @BryanLunduke There is no place for that in ANY work environment really! Gender diversity is obviously huge challenge in skilled trades too. The crap talk generally happens in the lunch trailer in my case not during the actual work and it is sometimes MANY orders of magnitude more than the worst that was said in "the memo".

I think tech, especially in silicon valley, is so insular that they don't know what the "normal" world is like and how it deals with such things.

@msh @[email protected] it's insular in many ways but also blue-collar trades are just completely different, class-wise, from office trades. I myself was manager on deck when an employee sent a "strippers and kegs" email to the whole office. He made his way from Jiffy Lube to IT. Turns out if you're gonna pull humor like that in an office half-full of accounting women, you'd better stock up on winky faces. Fortunately they spared him, but we all expected him to be fired.