reembodiedApr 2, 2017

What an easy way to indicate non-creepily that "I've had consent-related experiences which leave me wary of how hard saying no is when the answer is not quite yes, particularly in cishet interactions for women to do that to a guy who has 'made the first move', and therefore between my own blindness and fear of overstepping

I will never signal interest in IRL sex/physical interactions unless the woman I'm seeing makes an unambiguous self-initiated first move on the scale of a damn kiss."
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I do genuinely mean this as a question about str8d8ing, as I really do not know how to, without being weird, say, "I know in cishet relationships I, as the male, am 'supposed' to 'pick up on subtle cues' and 'make the first move' toward a relationship involving physical interaction at all, and am explicitly choosing to reject that because due to surrounding power dynamics I do not feel that I can trust the response, so if you have interest in me in that way, you will need to act on it instead."
Apr 2, 2017 at 3:15amWeb
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Attempting the following for the whole "fuck str8d8ing norms" portion of dating profiles:

"Hetcis dating norms are really crap for women and ND men, so instead of inaccessible hints and 'making a move', I will never do anything you don't clearly and unambiguously initiate, request, or do."

Show threadSkyApr 2, 2017
@reembodied Maybe "if there's any physical stuff you'd like, please make the first move so I'm sure that's what you want."
Show thread🛄 chitter.xyzApr 2, 2017
@reembodied "I don't wanna come off as an hetero boy, but I think I like you"