Programming culture being caustic and argumentative is the reason we don't have more girl coders
Inspired young girl: Wow look at this really cool and interesting programming idea I came up with!
Programmer: That idea is dumb.
Inspired young girl: Wow okay maybe I will try a pasttime that *doesn't* make me feel like shit.
Programmers as a mainstream culture are entirely focused on idea and product and not education or conditions of labor, and that is why we can't have nice things.