@ageha @redneonglow @mangeurdenuage @nerthos @sun @echo

sisters ex-boyfriend comes to mind

he was a penecostal fundie, and they where engaged to be married, was looking for houses to buy, but then he got cold feet because he had to "go find himself"

there's no flexibility in that kind of patriarchal role, it's just "here now you sit in a cage and be a Serious Man At All Times for 18+ years"