@Chishiki611 my parents called me lazy so much. When I couldn't complete assignments for university, according to them, I was just lazy, and all I needed to do was try harder and take things more seriously. And I couldn't understand that. I couldn't try harder or take things more seriously, no matter how hard I tried (because I was trying my hardest, but adhd and autism made my best less than a neurotypical's best). I just assumed that I was worse than others, they could try harder and I couldn't, I was convinced that was just lazy and needed to change but I was too lazy to actually put in the work. I hated myself, I had been convinced that I was just choosing to struggle like this, but wasn't strong enough to choose not to.
Now I'm diagnosed and medicated for adhd, but the harm that being called lazy did to me still persists. I often still hate myself for not being able to do things and default to "oh I'm just being lazy and just need to try harder and actually want to do these things and then just ,, choose to do them". Laziness is an excuse to punish folks with adhd, and that harm will follow them forever.
(Also thanks for moving the hashtags to the bottom, it makes it so hard to read when they're incorporated into the text like that)
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