im gonna put a poll below this lol

edit: so this has got way more attention than the usual 7 or so responses I generally get on polls (and it keeps going) and for that I'm going to mute the thread for a bit. It's getting a bit overwhelming.

If you're someone who had parents, that while not perfect, at least tried, I genuinely hope you appreciate how luck you are, and cherish that.

Those of you who did not, and found yourselves checkinging multiple options, I just want to let you know you're seen and heard, even if I havent responded to every comment, I have read them. Your experiences were valid, and no amount of gaslighting will ever take away your truth. I hope you all find, or have found, the path towards healing, however that may look for you.

@MelkyWay Mine was "lazy" but not for that reason. It was "this child with textbook ADHD can obviously do hard things when it interests him intrinsically. He must be disorganized, messy and forget to do his homework because he lacks motivation. Surely doubling down on punishment and guilt will suddenly make him pay more attention to these things."