Mastodawn

Anxious because I need to have the hearing disability talk with my boss and I don't know how to do it where I don't sound like I'm complaining. I just don't really know how to breach this that doesn't sound like I am making my hearing difficulties become his problem.

Something he does is mumble as he speaks, and CC will have a hard time, and I'll miss whole sentences and a lot of words. He also called me "Mr Matt" (which I can't stand) but the CC completely got it wrong and showed something like "Mr Metz" and I had no clue it was me, so it took me an extra few seconds to register, in which time he got frustrated that I didn't answer fast enough and moved on to the next person, so I had to interrupt him.

I guess I just need to give him a reminder. If he doesn't know I'm having trouble, it will never get fixed, but my CPTSD and wanting to be liked and fawning when I feel like I'm being a nuisance is getting in the way.

#CPTSD

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Large Format Projectionist 2d ago

@dtauvdiodr

You are NOT making it his problem. He’s mumbling that’s a problem.*. He needs to make it less effortful for his audiences to understand him.

* heads up, he may be doing this as a power play. One of my teammates trailed off amplitude AND frequency in every sentence during every meeting. He was clearly forcing his audience to lean in to his words. So be prepared to dance around that issue if you see him get overly defensive in the discussion.

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funz 2d ago

@dtauvdiodr 🤞 for the talk

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Adrian Cockcroft 1d ago

@dtauvdiodr Maybe tell him you use CC to compensate for your hearing issues (so it’s not about him) but sometimes CC doesn’t catch what he’s saying (so it’s the CCs fault) and you might need to ask him to repeat things (so he knows it wasn’t you not paying attention). Then when you say “pardon?” or whatever, he might feel better about repeating himself.