Really there should be a gender reveal party, but like, a real one, when someone comes out as trans. Where someone's actual gender is revealed, not their possession of a particular canonical set of standard-issue genitalia. Cause that's what people are really asking when they look at your stroller and say "Oh, how cute, boy or girl?"

What they mean is, "Does your infant have a vulva or a penis? This is clearly information I am entitled to, and it is in no way utterly creepy that I'm asking."

If my kids had been that small when I was momming them, I would have answered "I dunno yet, but if you'll scan the QR code on the stroller side, I'll add you to the email list to inform you when they tell me, okay?"

Only the QR code goes to a website at the domain "nunyafugginbizness.org". Which has, in large friendly letters, "Nunya Fuggin Bizness."

And then a list of therapists local to you who specialise in helping people with weird sex hangups. Like asking someone about their infant's genitals.

@oldladyplays I like that.
That reminds me: is there a gender neutral form of aunt/uncle? Because I have a niece, therefore I am an aunt (that's how it works, don't you dare say otherwise), so in the future, my niece may become a nephew and therefor I would be an uncle, but what would I be if my current niece would consider herself in her future non binary or something else?

@thehole

I have no idea. Perhaps some kind nonbinary person will come along and make a suggestion?

@thehole @oldladyplays

My kids and I spend the Xmas vacation one year fleshing out ‘nibling’ into a full set of non-gendered relations, something like this…

@DavidM_yeg @thehole

That is INCREDIBLE. I love it. May I spread it? And do you want credit of some kind, and if so, what kind?

I know it's the Internet, and I could do all that anyway. But I have this old-fashioned idea that consent is a good thing. Thanks for sharing.

@thehole @oldladyplays

Use it, spread it, the more the merrier… let’s change the language! (I’m not worried about credit)

@DavidM_yeg @thehole @oldladyplays I have been trying to figure out something other than aunt or uncle for the longest time
@DavidM_yeg I already use niblings but I'm loving piblings and griblings. Now let's do cousins' kids: couslings?
@thehole @oldladyplays

@oldladyplays @thehole @shom

Sure, if you want, whatever makes you and your… err… couslings happy. 🤷‍♂️

My family trees are pretty narrow, so that’s not a thing I have experience with. According to the old ways, your cousins kids are also cousins of some sort (first cousins once removed?) and cousin is already gender neutral. My understanding is that lot of people who are close to their cousins kids will call them nieces and nephews (niblings) anyway.

@DavidM_yeg spot on, niblings make sense in my context, I'm their only "pibling" in the country. Cheers!
@oldladyplays @thehole
@DavidM_yeg @thehole @oldladyplays absolutely not. With the exception of gribling. But only on Halloween