jinni3d ago

What do you think makes a great parent?

https://lemmy.world/post/45234744

What do you think makes a great parent? - Lemmy.World

I’m asking as a dad of two biological kids and one adopted child (though the concept of adoption differs between the West and the Arab world), ranging in age from 13 to 17. I was raised with a traditional Arab boss-subordinate dynamic between parent and child, but with my kids I went the opposite way and tried to cultivate a best-friend, mentor, and guide relationship, while still maintaining my role as an authority figure.

Show threadMojoMcJojo3d ago
Acknowledging their pain, physical and emotional. All you have to do is agree with them that it hurts.
Show threadGreenKnight233d ago

one of my kids over emulates emotions because it’s difficult for him to express himself.

I always take the position of, “I know that you’re upset, and that’s okay. take all the time you need somewhere quiet.”

however, my wife takes the position of, “Stop crying, it’s not that bad.”

I’ve told her that speaking to a child like that makes them believe their feelings don’t matter and thus they don’t matter. I know this because it’s exactly how I was treated growing up.

for the longest time I thought I was a psychopath because I can just turn off my emotions, when in reality it’s because I was told to be this way.

Show threadMojoMcJojo
The best parenting advice I heard was that words of your parents become the voice in your head for the rest of your life.
Apr 7 at 11:31amWeb
Show threadGreenKnight232d ago
that… checks out.