Reminder to myself that if I have a friend or family member who treats me differently when I don’t meet their very exacting standards, they’re not healthy for me, and trying to meet their standards isn’t, either.
I must meet my own standards and adhere to my own ethics, and do what is within my own capacity as faithfully and consistently as I can.
You might need this reminder, too.
I perfectly get where you are coming from.
I would like to add though that this is not black/white situation. Rather it is a grey scale and somewhere there you have to draw the line.
Breaking up a friendship because they criticized you for making an inappropriate joke.
Such strict rejection is also not healthy for us for two reasons:
A) we start isolating easily
B) Society is our collective relationships if polarize, society polarizes too
Now I am also not saying tolerate bad behaviour.
Of course if someone is not respecting you, manipulating you, you have every right to leave them behind. But again this is one end of the scale the slight inconvenience is the other end.
I would appreciate it if people tried to learn that we can't have the same expectations and embrace that as a lesson of acceptance instead of rejecting the relationship.
If we all learn that, it would be a big step towards equity and inclusion.
ADHDeanASL
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