Reminder to myself that if I have a friend or family member who treats me differently when I don’t meet their very exacting standards, they’re not healthy for me, and trying to meet their standards isn’t, either.
I must meet my own standards and adhere to my own ethics, and do what is within my own capacity as faithfully and consistently as I can.
You might need this reminder, too.
I perfectly get where you are coming from.
I would like to add though that this is not black/white situation. Rather it is a grey scale and somewhere there you have to draw the line.
Breaking up a friendship because they criticized you for making an inappropriate joke.
Such strict rejection is also not healthy for us for two reasons:
A) we start isolating easily
B) Society is our collective relationships if polarize, society polarizes too
Like so many things the true nature of such matters does not fit into a single toot, post or let alone TikTok short clip.
But I have lately noticed a rising trend of people breaking up relationships the moment they become a bit inconvenient, irritating or annoying.
I think this is several steps too far. Especially because it also means we will never learn to handle relationships fully, only when everything is easy and fine.
But life isn't always easy and fine.
ADHDeanASL
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