Mastodawn

Urgh. I don’t even have huge hips but I do have a hip dip that can make them look bigger and it’s like the one thing I can’t really fix. I could get body masculinization surgery but I’ve never considered that as an option. I mean my hips will always be there and I’m not sure it’s even permanent. I just need to work out and manage my weight to try and keep from drawing attention to them.

Uneducated, on trans masc struggles, trans fems will basically say how easy we have it because testosterone takes care of everything. For many trans mascs that is far from true anyways, but here I am a guy that between T and my genes and natural height have been very lucky, and I still get misgendered on the phone and I will always have hips, even after I’m done with surgery.

Sigh. Anyways, no matter how many surgeries and how successful hormones on your body, it seems there will always be something.

Overall I’m thrilled with what T has and and all my surgeries have done. I’m a guy, I look like a guy, feel like a guy, am a guy, but I still struggle almost 12 years in.

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Faith, Purple haired feminist 🧋

@Melezioh Hips sure seem like the final boss. I know some trans girls with amazing asses but I'm not one of them. If hip surgery existed and was safe (that last bit is important), I'd be very tempted. It's such a subtle thing and the natural variation in the cis population is huge, but it's a pretty big deal when looking at your own body in the mirror.

I'm sorry y'all get caught in the jealousy. I think we all tend to see the "best" and "worst" examples, and that's what our vision of transition forms around. Yeah, some trans guys get on T and start hitting the gym and look like Chads after a couple years. Some trans girls end up really pretty. But reality isn't that and even the pretty girls and the ripped guys are often struggling underneath the surface.

And there's always the things we can't fix.

For me, that's my hips and belly as well as my overall size (I'm 6'3"). Nothing that exists will fix those. I just have to remind myself that cis girls my size struggle with it as well.

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Mel 1d ago

@faithisleaping I’d totally get hip surgery if it were safe and possible too, to reduce my hips. Both sides got hip issues just opposite direction.

I got really lucky on height. I’m an average adult male height at 5’10”-5’11” but again a both sides as there’s so many tiny kings out there down in the low 5” range.

I think it’s easy to get caught in jealousy looking at the lucky trans people that hormones did a lot but they had to put in the work too, we all know it’s not magic. I don’t begrudge the trans fems that get caught in this towards trans mascs unless they won’t listen when we tell them that really not how it is. It’s easy to go the grass is greener, after all.

I did get lucky but I think we all will have those one or two things that’s worms in our heads causing dysphoria.