Mastodawn

Urgh. I don’t even have huge hips but I do have a hip dip that can make them look bigger and it’s like the one thing I can’t really fix. I could get body masculinization surgery but I’ve never considered that as an option. I mean my hips will always be there and I’m not sure it’s even permanent. I just need to work out and manage my weight to try and keep from drawing attention to them.

Uneducated, on trans masc struggles, trans fems will basically say how easy we have it because testosterone takes care of everything. For many trans mascs that is far from true anyways, but here I am a guy that between T and my genes and natural height have been very lucky, and I still get misgendered on the phone and I will always have hips, even after I’m done with surgery.

Sigh. Anyways, no matter how many surgeries and how successful hormones on your body, it seems there will always be something.

Overall I’m thrilled with what T has and and all my surgeries have done. I’m a guy, I look like a guy, feel like a guy, am a guy, but I still struggle almost 12 years in.

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Joscelyn Transpiring 1d ago

@Melezioh thanks for sharing, it helps to hear about what kinds of things affect my brothers and siblings 💜

Definitely something I can sympathize with from the other side. My shoulders and my hands….just something that I know we are unlikely to have a meaningful option for dealing with in our lifetimes, and I just have to accept. Some days the dysphoria hits worse. These kinds of things are just so frustrating and hard, and I feel you so much.

The idea that T can do everything hits a lot of young transmascs to, and so few realize there are options like voice therapy and facial masculinization surgery available (though often not as accessible or covered at the same level by insurance, fuck those asshats). And I have seen it send some down bad self-hating spirals, it stinks.

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Mel

@JoscelynTransient yea both directions have things we will struggle with and can’t really solve in our lifetimes and it sucks.

Yea. I know a lot of trans mascs expect T to do everything and it just can’t, even if you’re lucky in the genetic lottery. Good to see others that have been through it share the truth. It can’t solve everything, unfortunately, even if you’re lucky with your changes. Ah well.

Yea I think a lot of trans mascs that was facial masculinization surgery can’t get it covered. It’s harder to access for sure. And there’s body masculinization surgery that you don’t hear about much but it’s just fat redistribution and liposuction so not really a permanent solution and doesn’t ultimately get rid of hips anyways.