Most people engage in an incredible amount of self-deception to avoid the reality that, beyond some external constraints, there is quite a range of people you could choose to be
Is this the person that you want to be? Why not try being someone different?
Beyond the actual commitments you have made, it is unlikely you owe the other people in your life this prison which you have put yourself inside of
@doomsey I'm actually curious if we actually have anything resembling scientific evidence that stability of identity actually confers safety in people's lives, or if this is just a widespread belief based on the correlation between situations where people experience instability of identity and [various hazards]
I spent vast stretches of my life afraid of change, but it was a fear that (I think) had mostly been taught to me
recursive 🏳️🌈
doomsey