Well ok this all works now, which means that all my posting presence is a decent approximation of self-hosted (for varying degrees, I'm not hosting a bsky webapp and I don't know that there'd be a real benefit in doing so at this point)

Mastodon: Self hosted
Blog: Self hosted
Email: Self hosted
Bsky: PDS is self hosted

And backups on two continents so I'm sure this will all be entirely fine

@mjg59 Is there a short answer to "how the heck do you self-host email without everything going to spam?"
@luxliquida @mjg59 My answer is Mailcow - https://mailcow.email/ - it's really good! Manages spam filtering, as well as all of the SPF/DKIM/etc etc you need to come across as a legit site to Google/Hotmail/etc.
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@ramcq @luxliquida @mjg59 100% agree on mailcow. Been using it for ages, rock solid, very convenient and easy to set-up and use