Eleanor2d ago
When you're trans, so many people tell you how hard it is for them. How hard it is to lose the person they thought you were. How hard it is to adapt to the person you are. How hard it is to use the right name. How hard it is to use the right pronouns. How hard...how hard....how hard...over and over again, excuse after excuse after excuse. Despite telling you how hard it is, almost none of those people will spend any amount of time thinking about how hard your life has been for you.
Show threadAurora 🏳️‍🌈 :Dahlia-Unicode-Pink:2d ago
@eleanor 100%. Like my mom likes talking to me over the phone because she can "pretend nothing has changed because I haven't changed my voice" and like obviously that hurts but I think it's sad too.

Like they are so desperate to cling to this ideal of me that never existed, to pretend that I am a person who doesn't exist and never really existed at all. How sad that they would rather believe in a corpse than love the person I've become.
Show threadMoriel 🏳️‍⚧️2d ago

@celestiallavendar @eleanor

That hits hard. It's kind of how we felt. Our mother didn't want to know us or love us, she just wanted the person we pretended to be because we were afraid of her.

Show threadAurora 🏳️‍🌈 :Dahlia-Unicode-Pink:
@moriel @eleanor That's so tough, I'm sorry that you have to deal with that 🫂

I think in my case it's hard because my parents are accepting enough, but they are still struggling with the basics literally years later. Like I'm glad to have a relationship with them, but it sucks that they're probably going to be fucking up my pronouns at my wedding at this rate.
Mar 27 at 2:01amWeb
Show threadMoriel 🏳️‍⚧️2d ago

@celestiallavendar @eleanor

Oh my mother came around after many years. She even went to be with me at the hospital when i had my surgery. But she never did apologize or even acknowledge the harm and emotional abuse she heaped on me for 15 years before i got out from her control

i do hope you parents can at lest be nice at the wedding.