EleanorWhen you're trans, so many people tell you how hard it is for them. How hard it is to lose the person they thought you were. How hard it is to adapt to the person you are. How hard it is to use the right name. How hard it is to use the right pronouns. How hard...how hard....how hard...over and over again, excuse after excuse after excuse. Despite telling you how hard it is, almost none of those people will spend any amount of time thinking about how hard your life has been for you.
Faith, Purple haired feminist 🧋 
@eleanor It's fucking exhausting. 😩
@eleanor I just don't talk to those people. That's my solution.
Emily_S@faithisleaping @eleanor reasonable.
Hate to be transactional, but they won't be there when you need them.
@faithisleaping @eleanor 🫂 euh, yeah, me too.
I'm sorry you went through that
@emily_s @eleanor The thing I hate about that argument is that transition is the single hardest thing I've ever done in my life. They chose to stand back and just have feelings about it instead of recognizing that maybe I was going through some tough shit and try to be a support.
I was going through puberty again. I was growing into my womanhood. I needed a mom. She was too busy processing her own feelings and being upset that I wasn't giving her control. I had to stop talking to her because every conversation hurt.
When am I going to need them more than that?
Yeah, I get that some people are still financially dependent on their parents or close enough to poverty that they might be at any moment. Sometimes those ties are worth keeping up just in case. But that's not the dynamic I have. And if we did have financial problems where we needed help, I wouldn't be going to that set of parents anyway.
@faithisleaping @eleanor I honesy don't know how to reply to this except to say I wish you didn't have to go through that. And offer a virtual hug if you want it.