@JoscelynTransient @FinalGirl @WrenArcher kind of chipping in to a thread that is about a different era & definitely not in the club
Like I say I've know since I was a child BUT the whole "you have to live as a woman for some period" etc all seem insurmountable. I experimented a lot with gender presentation in the 90s - wearing skirts & dresses, always wearing makeup (pretty makeup)
then buried it deep
but in my 50's I kind of came to the realisation that I was "allowed"
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& kind of slowly revealed myself to A. - _really_ helped by learning terminology from social media and seeing other peoples experiences
been an odd old journey
Now I wish I'd understood better in the 90s that not all trans people were like the medical world said they were.
if only I had heard the term "genderqueer" my life might have been different...
@junklight this story reads a lot like mine. I transitioned at 50 and yet I was effectively out as transgender in the 90s, but didn’t have that terminology and didn’t know hormones existed. I thought it was either man or fly to Scandinavia for “a sex change operation,” which left one not a woman but a Frankenstein monster.
So like it didn’t matter that I knew because in rustbelt Northeast and then in South Carolina the level of epistemological oppression was too high for me to know what that meant.
If someone in the 90s had said “you can just take a pill,” then I would’ve transitioned in a hot minute. But all I knew of that path was weird weird prostitutes and Silence of the Lambs.
god yeah - the information in the 90s was so bad. Ironically I actually knew a trans woman (& got off with her a few times - she was gorgeous) but she thought I hated her for some reason (we were all taking a lot of drugs - it was a chaotic time) & I never _actually_ talked to her properly...
but yeah wasn't any better in the uk than you describe.
I'm still like gobsmacked I can just take hormones and things are changing!
but yeah. hard relate!
@junklight It wasn't any better in NZ, and then I moved to London in '95. So much of my life spent pretending to myself I didn't hate LARPing as a man, because the information and vocabulary weren't there.
Then at 51 I fed my brain what it desperately needed, and the tits are (almost) secondary.
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