Your 20s suck. No one talks about this. 22-26 were the worst years of my life. I just turned 30 and while I “regret” losing some time of my youth and wish I had more of it, my life is only getting better.

In my 20s I thought I knew what my life was gonna look like, but really there’s so much that you’re still experiencing for the first time. 20s are tumultuous and chaotic, you’re typically low on money, unsure of what you want out of life, unsure of what you’re capable of, and at least for me, I wasn’t sure anything good could possibly come from the mess I felt I created.

Sometime around 27-28 the absurdity of it all kinda hit me, and I realized that I actually am kind of capable of handling my affairs, the people around me also generally stopped acting like chaotic idiots, and I kind of “found my groove” so to speak. So far I have more money and stability than I thought was possible (partially by learning what I didn’t actually want to spend money on), my work life is much less chaotic, and considering myself to be capable has resulted in my workplace taking me more seriously as well.

It can get better. I think everyone’s 20s suck. It’s a time when you have the minimum money you realistically ever will, with all of the responsibilities of a real adult but none of the authority or stability of one. Everyone around you is dumb as shit and figuring themselves out too, so even if you have yourself largely figured out, you’re still somewhat at the mercy of your social group’s stability.

Hang in there friend.