harriehq

(Absolutely viciously growled through the tightest of clenched jaws-)

The only way I have ever felt trans / non-binary is that I really want to fucking CLEARLY AND LOUDLY OPT OUT of this cis-woman seeming OBSESSION with BEING PREGNANT and GIVING BIRTH and HAVING CHILDREN…

Like I TRY TO BE ACCEPTING OF ALL WOMEN (minus the nazi cunts) but I swear some of y'all with uteri and ovaries just make me want to X the whole gender set I was born to a la A Very Small Planet.

Granted, I've encountered the "I wanna be a daddy" man-children. And the ones who don't give a shit about wrapping it up one way or the other because they're literally that stupid.

But I fucking swear. The way y'all brag about pushing a bloody screaming ENTIRE HUMAN YOU PROCEED TO ABUSE (sorry different rant) out of your vagina and pretend you enjoyed the pregnancy (I've worked in an OB/GYN clinic, I know what y'all have to go through, when it's ALL GOING WELL, at the bare minimum. And it so RARELY goes well, I can also tell you. Yea, your brain saying "this is all ok" is not even lizard-brain human survival level, although you HAVE been hormonally hijacked, it's straight up delusion.) AND ACT LIKE IT'S SOME ULTIMATE BADGE OF HONOR… (not to mention the ensuing years of stress, EVEN "IF," again, all goes well, at best, AND subjecting your co-workers to horror dramas of blow-out diapers because you have NOTHING else to talk about)… makes me really fucking ashamed to identify as a woman.


#trans-rights #gender-identity #reproduction #reproductive-rights #woman #gender-dysphoria #babies #baby-crazy #mama
Mar 26 at 4:40amWeb
Show threadharriehqMar 26

I could have gotten a paid hotel-stay away for in-person training, but it's… "SO HARD WHEN YOU HAVE KIDS" blah fucking blah.

WELL I'M THE ONLY LONG-DISTANCE PARTICIPANT AND I DON'T FUCKING HAVE CHILDREN SO GREAT JOB WEAPONIZING MISOGYNY TO DEFEND YOUR CHOICE TO BE CHEAP.

… I'm not that mad. I'd like the time away, but I get anxious being away from my pets. And I get to show up as my weird, usual self to MY office instead of performing sociability in an unfamiliar office. This isn't even the trigger for the rant. Just the most recent example OF PEOPLE PUTTING ME IN A BOX BECAUSE I WAS BORN WITH A BOX and I am so fucking sick of it.

Show threadThe Witch of Crow BriarMar 26
@harriehq yeah, the baseline of being accepting of all women often runs into the reality that the Mommy Cult is real, so I feel you.
Show threadAbsolutemocchiMar 26
@harriehq this perspective seems pretty unfair, like you said its instinct
i dont think these women can help with the way they feel
Show threadharriehqMar 26

@kawaiimoonjizz

They can "feel" however the fuck they want but they DO NOT have the right to assume I feel the same way.

And NOWHERE did I use the word "instinct," so you're just wrong all around.

Show threadAbsolutemocchiMar 26

@harriehq emotions and feelings ARE instinct though, theyre what motivate us to avoid or do shit

also you can just ignore these girls

Show threadharriehqMar 26

@kawaiimoonjizz

When did I say anything about "emotion" or "feelings," either?

And it's actually a micro-aggression that feels on par with being misgendered TO ME when people assume I either have or want children, AND THEN make decisions on my behalf based on that erroneous assumption.

I could "ignore them," but I shouldn't have to suffer in silence just because I'm in the minority. They should stop assuming things about me just based on my gender.

Show threadAbsolutemocchiMar 26
@harriehq cant trans women (who want kids not you specifically) adopt kids though if they want? thats not much different
Show threadharriehqMar 26

@kawaiimoonjizz

You have not only lost the plot, you don't even know what book you're reading.

Show threadAbsolutemocchiMar 26
@harriehq also you mentioned feelings right here
you should really talk to them about this if its bothering you then, im sure theyd understand
Show threadharriehqMar 26

@kawaiimoonjizz

That was in RESPONSE to YOU saying "they can't help how they feel." Jesus fuck. You are REALLY grasping at straws and I am not interested in a conversation with someone determined to dismiss, invalidate, and deliberately misunderstand me, and to misconstrue my words.

Show threadAbsolutemocchiMar 26
@harriehq block me then
you didnt have to start or participate in this conversation at all
neither do i but lets be real were probably both bored here
Show threadAbsolutemocchiMar 26
@harriehq this argument is stupid