Tilly Bridgeshi cis white guys
it is never okay to comment on a photo of a trans woman with “i’d do you”
stop it forever
ADHDeanASL@tillybridges Wait, you mean that all women, trans or cis, don’t immediately crave me when I flippantly sexualize them? This can’t be right, for I am a desirable sex god.
Ashwin DixitYes, I mean that too, perhaps a bit ironically than you did. 😃
Some women, trans or cis, actually might like that sort of comment.
Please don't speak for all people of a category that you belong to.
Nobody appointed you official spokesperson for all.
Your comment is best taken as advice under consideration, not as a commandment.
Leave individuals to be individuals.
It would be a bit silly if I started speaking for all Indians/Americans/bald people etc. 😃
@purrperl @adhdeanasl hey bud
when a person from a marginalized community speaks on the gross sexual harassment she continually experiences
your job
is to listen and believe her
and not say that some trans women might like being sexually harassed by cis white men
do better
do SO much better
WHAT THE FUCK
@tillybridges Must have been some lousy comment - the account doesn’t even seem to have any replies at all any more. @[email protected]
The Cyberwitch@purrperl @adhdeanasl @tillybridges the fact that many cis men so frequently take the gamble of "but *some* women like it" explains much of (if not most of) the unsolicited sexual comments, otherwise known as sexual harassment.
Kate Hildenbrand@purrperl @adhdeanasl @tillybridges Even if some people would enjoy that sort of comment, you would need to talk to them to know that before writing such an inconsiderate sexist thing unasked. You don't know which people might enjoy this, so you have the responsibility to act with due consideration. And with due consideration, you would not write such things.
This is some weird twist on „not all men“ you are doing...
@rootsandcalluses @adhdeanasl
Yes, I will repeat, over and over, "not all men" and "not all women".
It's a political trope that we need to examine closely.
Diversity:
Not all men are bad. Not all women are good.
Not all men are good. Not all women are bad.
The world doesn't exist to soothe anyone's sensibilities, no matter how offended they may be, and no matter how many people they may pull together to support their feelings of being offended.
Off to have a good day. Please do the same. 😃
@purrperl @adhdeanasl Please do examine the „not all men“ concept more closely. This is a systemic issue and finding a good man (I know some wonderful people who you'd consider men. I don't care much about gender.) does not change anything. No one has to go looking for people to get offended by your words. You are doing a good job offending a wide range of people.
Blocking you now. Wishing you all the best.
verses 
@purrperl @adhdeanasl @tillybridges
TL;DR: PURRPERL: APOLOGIZE IMMEDIATELY FOR GROSS PHOTO COMMENT !
purrperl you should be ashamed. now is not the time to play word games with the person you harmed. you are ignoring tillybridge's points. lest you try to play games about context, i am writing specifically about your comments in which you wrote that tillybridges "does not speak for all trans people" and that "some" trans women might like to be objectified
regarding your harmful notion that some trans women might like the kind of objectifying comments that you wrote (translation: you made up an excuse to justify harassing women online), tillybridges pointed out that your comment on her photo was NOT OK. I put it in capital letters for emphasis since you want to gloss over tilly's very clear response that she said DONT DO THAT
It is time to grow up from this stupid attitude of harassing and bothering trans women because you enjoy it. You must know by now when anyone tells you they feel harassed, bothered, and especially dont want you to write objectifying comments about them (and says dont do that to others) that the correct course of action is to APOLOGIZE and DONT DO IT AGAIN
furthermore you must be not only insensitive to issues on transgender people, but you must apparently willfully dont care to show any kindness or understanding to trans people as a whole or on the individual level
to say that "one trans person does not speak for all trans people" is subverting tillybridge's lived experiences in order for you to be able to live in denial about the harm of your comments, thus piling on further harm
if you cannot WRITE AN APOLOGY to tillybridges , then be prepared for lots of drama and trying to play word games with people who are more informed than you.
and be prepared to be left behind and left out of important conversations and meaningful opportunities for connection with people because you cannot accept that you have done harm to people.
i hope you lack sufficient attitude of entitlement to resist changing yourself for the better, and that you also decide to grow up.
lastly,
⚠️ DONT FUCK WITH TILLYBRIDGES ⚠️
@onemoreday @adhdeanasl @tillybridges
You are hilarious! If only you knew how hilarious.
"I'd do you." is not sexual harassment, or objectification, imho. And I am not alone this opinion.
To insist that the world conform to your opinions is just silly.
There is diversity in the world. Different people like different things. It's just that simple.
Ok, I won't respond to tillybridges, or anyone who thinks that they get to speak for a whole group.
Bye. Have a good life. 😃
jo the disgraced@purrperl You are wrong, and the best thing you can do at this point is delete your post.
The best thing you can do is read what you like, and ignore what you don't like.
@purrperl Except when you're bothering someone in my community, in which case I reserve the right to tell you off.
I see you're *still* going on about this, even reaching out to other trans women to get their opinion on the matter. Please just drop the stick.
Who appointed you king here?
At least I am open enough to talk to my trans friends and get their thoughtful opinions. Instead of hurling expletives at someone mindlessly.
"He was SPEAKING HIS MIND on the Internet! How awful! I will tell him to fuck off. That will show him."
Say what you like, and don't listen to anything you don't like. Don't like hearing what I say? Ignore me. Block me. Move on. It's a nice day. Enjoy it.
Joyful Jonny@purrperl you really need to shut the fuck up and back the fuck off