Conflicted on whether to take Plan B after he supposedly came outside during unprotected sex

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Conflicted on whether to take Plan B after he supposedly came outside during unprotected sex - Lemmy.World

Hi, please be kind with me. I’m feeling really vulnerable and conflicted about this. I had a bit too much to drink and had unprotected sex with a guy who was sober and came on my back, but it also got on the bed. I was too out of it to remember the exact timing but he said there’s no need to take plan B. I’m not on any birth control. I’ve taken plan B twice before and read stories of how awful it is. I did feel very depressed and overwhelmed in the weeks after taking it, but that could also be explained by stressors that I was dealing with at the time. I’m worried about the side effects, especially considering this would be my third time taking it. Should I take plan B? Can anyone who has taken it multiple times share about the side effects and their experiences with it? Is the pull-out method less risky than I’m thinking it is, or is this not worth the gamble even if I didn’t need Plan B? A pregnancy would be a huge disruption, and I don’t even want to imagine it.

I agree with all the other comments: pulling out is not a birth control method, and you have a high risk of pregnancy in this situation if you don’t take an emergency contraceptive.

I find myself getting into these situations. What should I be doing differently?

Carry condoms. Insist on their use the entire time a penis is in contact with your vulva. Most men, even irresponsible ones will pick sex with a condom over no sex, and someone refusing condom use when you have one available is a strong red flag.

I won’t pretend to know what lifestyle choices are right for you, but condoms have a very good track record for preventing STIs and pregnancy.