Jess👾18h ago
Trans pro tip:
You don't have to stress too much about ensuring you always do fem/masc/neutral voice around close friends and family who accept you. To them, you just sound like you.
Show threadFaith, Purple haired feminist 🧋   18h ago

@JessTheUnstill Strangers, too, TBH. Like, I watched this video on another platform of a girl with really bad voice dysphoria talking about how she desperately needs VFS.

I never would have known she was trans if she hadn't been talking about dysphoria.

Gender detection is a grab-bag of different factors and no one of them is The Thing.

Show threadMorgan ⚧️16h ago
@faithisleaping @JessTheUnstill it makes me sad how often trans people think we're Instantly Clockable because of One Trait that is just a normal variance in all categories of human... Low voices on women are beautiful, low voices on cis women are common, and low voices on trans women frequently sound no different than low voices on cis women. I should remember this about short men as well 😅
Show threadJackie

@raphaelmorgan @faithisleaping @JessTheUnstill

I'm very insecure about my voice because people always compare it to my brother's

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Show threadMorgan ⚧️16h ago
@burnoutqueen @faithisleaping @JessTheUnstill 🫂 I get that. I hope over time you can learn to see it as simply a low voice on a woman, no different than on a cis woman. Or change it to your liking--either way is fine by me (and I'd be a hypocrite for suggesting trans people not do anything to change our voices, bc that's been my favorite effect of the T) I just want you to love yourself and every part of you
Show threadJackie16h ago

@raphaelmorgan @faithisleaping @JessTheUnstill

I can work around the low pitch.

Show threadJackie16h ago

@raphaelmorgan @faithisleaping @JessTheUnstill

The pitch isn't that important for having a feminine voice, and many women have low pitch anyways. That's not my problem

Show threadJess👾16h ago
@burnoutqueen @raphaelmorgan @faithisleaping yeah resonance is the tricky part
Show threadMorgan ⚧️16h ago
@JessTheUnstill @burnoutqueen @faithisleaping I should've phrased differently 😅 "low voice" obviously is used to describe pitch, but I also use it to describe resonance sometimes bc idk how else to say that without leaning into patriarchal assumptions of masculinity and femininity. Like, I'd say I have a low voice pitch wise and a high voice resonance wise, but no one really notices the pitch so I do mean cis women with low resonance too
Show threadJess👾16h ago
@raphaelmorgan @burnoutqueen @faithisleaping I get it, people's voices come in all sorts of shapes and sizes, but dysphoria is a fuck and I for one like to hear "the right voice" in my head as much as possible. The thread was mostly an encouragement to younger trans folks that it's okay to let yourself be "lazy" in safe places because people just know your voice as your voice.
Show threadMorgan ⚧️15h ago
@JessTheUnstill @burnoutqueen @faithisleaping fair, and sorry if I coopted the thread! I understand the desire to hear the right voice as much as possible, I can't listen to old recordings of me because of the dysphoria (or some more current ones if I'm talking, bc T didn't help with that quite as much as with singing). And I appreciate the original post a lot
Show threadJess👾14h ago
@raphaelmorgan @burnoutqueen @faithisleaping I know it's no panacea, but I am always a bit jealous of the pitch changes many people get from T "for free". Not doing some "who has it better", both have plusses and minuses, but that's one that certainly would be nice to wish for some parity on.
Show threadMorgan ⚧️14h ago
@JessTheUnstill don't worry, I get it. There are absolutely elements of transfem transition that I'm a little envious of, and I don't see either of our feelings as some sort of competition. I wish we could all just trade/donate what we don't want 😅