Jess👾18h ago
Trans pro tip:
You don't have to stress too much about ensuring you always do fem/masc/neutral voice around close friends and family who accept you. To them, you just sound like you.
Show threadFaith, Purple haired feminist 🧋   18h ago

@JessTheUnstill Strangers, too, TBH. Like, I watched this video on another platform of a girl with really bad voice dysphoria talking about how she desperately needs VFS.

I never would have known she was trans if she hadn't been talking about dysphoria.

Gender detection is a grab-bag of different factors and no one of them is The Thing.

Show threadJess👾18h ago
@faithisleaping I do focus the most at the start of conversations - especially on the phone. Cis people tend to quickly lock you into a gender and keep you there regardless. So give them as many signals as you can up front
Show threadMorgan ⚧️
@JessTheUnstill @faithisleaping oh that's a good idea, I should try that. I've found that when people can see my face, they usually just gender my voice as "gay", but on the phone I'm pretty likely to get misgendered, and in public it depends on how they gender my clothes because my mask covers the beard... So maybe I should start those conversations off with an attempt at sounding masculine and then let go, because that sounds a lot easier than forcing it the whole time 😅
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Show threadJess👾17h ago
@raphaelmorgan @faithisleaping Yeah, first impressions are key when dealing with casual cis interactions. They just don't think too hard, take the first random gendered signals they notice, make a snap judgement, and stick with it since MOST people they interact with are just cis people