Here’s the thing you need to know about people who transitioned as adults: their transition is probably a truly epic saga. They might be the most basic person ever, and they might not tell you their story, but it’s there.
Maybe it’s about the extremes they reached running from their dysphoria. Maybe it’s an intricate web of relationships and pain and sorrow. Maybe it’s an internal tale of descending into themselves to battle daemons that society itself cursed them with.
Transition is wild, yo.
@Willow "there were no signs" has been a running joke for me and my wife for years. (We've swapped genders almost completely since lockdown.)
If you're looking for Dramatic Moments:
I got my passport corrected in November 2024, just before the US government stopped issuing X gender passports. I started T and got my name changed the same month.
My first successful date with a cis gay man was in early 2025 during a visit to the UK; in fact, a lot of that trip was about gender for me.
@Willow (more detailed thoughts here: https://wandering.shop/@WizardOfDocs/113903126434020959)
In summer 2025, I had a series of "is this who I'd have been as a boy in high school" moments (https://wandering.shop/@WizardOfDocs/114996941445566828).
In the fall, I married @storm , and I bought my first suit for the occasion. Both sets of parents were there; I'm still not entirely sure either of them fully understands what we're doing, but I'm glad they all wanted to be there.
@Willow @storm oh, and I came out to my conservative grandparents as part of the wedding planning
I'd spent years terrified of how they'd react---and then it wasn't so bad.
Possibly because we focused on the name change and minimized the pronoun change. Maybe they haven't quite put all the pieces together.
And I've mostly forgiven Mom for pushing me into it, entirely because it turned out okay.
Willow, Venus Pirate 🏳️⚧️
Alex, the Hearth Fire