Not sure who needs to hear this, but...
It wasn't your fault.
You're a good person regardless of what happened to you, despite what your inner demons tell you.
You didn't deserve the abuse you went through.
Your hurt is valid.
I hope your pain eases soon, sweetheart. You've made it so far. Just keep going. It will fade, if you stop revisiting it and punishing yourself. You've got this. I believe in you so much.
Much love, friend.
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@Bwee re: https://meow.social/@Bwee/116278828207966984
oh the absolute nerve to subpost this publicly
the problem is that an approach like this tends to make people feel like they've never done anything wrong, and thus, inhibit healthy self-improvement (therefore, making this advice dangerous)
this is not a personal attack and telling me to "just make my own post" is silly (i've been encouraging others (and myself) to improve and feel at ease with their past for *years*; i can assure you i made my own posts)
Be careful, as according to one person in the replies this is bad advice. If it doesn't work for you, it doesn't, and I'm sorry. I'm doing my best.
@xyla I'm sorry my post rubbed you the wrong way. Perhaps it was written too vaguely? But it doesn't absolve every single reader of all responsibility ever, and I don't read it like it does.
Sometimes, you know, deep down, something that happened to you wasn't your fault, but the voices in your head are persistent and they can end up making you question your worth. This is what my post is addressing, and I'm hoping most readers took it in that spirit.
I understand that shrugging off all responsibility isn't a good thing. But abuse -is- sometimes completely one way, and I just want those who were in that situation to know they don't deserve to feel worthless just because something bad happened to them, if that makes sense?
Also I apologize for "subtooting" you but I was genuinely scared that I was making a mistake and wanted other opinions.
@Bwee the only problem in this post in my opinion would be "It wasn't your fault.", as this only applies to a narrow group of people that isn't specified here (without it, i wouldn't see this post as a possible unhealthy reaffirmation)
the problem being, if someone is feeling really down, they will be prone to understanding repeated messages like this as a removal of guilt and ending up with a really bad realisation at some point
🩵 Bwee the Fluffdragon 🩵
xyla!!