"Late‑diagnosed adults describe finally learning they are autistic as both relief and grief: relief at having a name and community that fit, and grief for all the years spent fighting the unnecessary battles."

Yes!!! But not so much "grief" as RESENTMENT, for how unnecessary it all was and is. 😡

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/positively-different/202603/epistemic-injustice-the-great-gaslighting-of-autistic-lives