Mastodawn

Anon is terminally lonely

https://sh.itjust.works/post/57044211

Forcing your self to feel feelings that you think “are right” is a good way to guilt trip yourself into insanity. The reality is feelings are oscillatory, sometimes you love someone to bits, sometimes you are impartial to them, sometimes you want a bit of space. If one is overweighing the others in a way that you think contradicts your proximity to this person then it is time to have an adult conversation but you can’t judge your relation, yourself or the other person based on a single moment of feeling you had one morning.

Otherwise the point is not to squish feelings that may look contradictory to your perceived relation with a person, the point is to finesse them, i.e live them without hurting the other person. ex, don’t act like a dick when you want a bit of space (also don’t be a dick when the other person does too).

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reptar

Very well put! I’m always impressed with thoughtful writing that is fluid and natural to follow as a reader. Just curious, do you write a lot?

And on the actual topic, I’d add that observation of such feelings, and their relation to physical, mental, and social events and environment, is often an important starting point. I’ve been surprised myself at how much some pretty simple causality had been obscured by ad hoc constructions. For whatever reason, THC has been quite a tool for me to make those underlying foundations obvious.

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Avicenna 1d ago

Thanks and no I am not much of a writer but this just turns out to be one particular topic that I thought alot about.