The Daily Check-In for Friday March 20th, Just for Today - We are NOT Drinking!

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The Daily Check-In for Friday March 20th, Just for Today - We are NOT Drinking! - Lemmy.World

Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT, 😁! We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together! Welcome to the 24 hour pledge! I’m pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same. Maybe you’re new to c/stop drinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you’re like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you’ve been sober for a long time and want to inspire others. It doesn’t matter if you’re still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, let’s not drink alcohol!

IWNDWYT Day 5

Yesterday by 3 pm I was dragging, just out and out exhausted. I went home and took a little nap but was still very low energy, could barely still keep my eyes open, nevermind do any exercise. I hope today is different. My work area yesterday was very fast paced and I was running all over the unit helping out. Today I am in a different setting. We will see… I suppose I probably have a big sleep deficit. I am working tomorrow for a half day so still have to get up early etc. I am trying to keep up with my self-care such as taking my vitamins and meds every am (which I was not doing when I was drinking). I plan to make a manicure/pedi appointment to celebrate 7 days so I am looking forward to that (which I didn’t do before because I was spending so much money weekly on wine). Anyhow I hope everyone has a great Friday!

Alcohol upsets everything. Hormones, digestion, sleep, you name it, alcohol screws it up. These early days, frankly, suck. Your body is still operating in the old, toxic past where it has to deal with poison on the regular, and everything’s out of whack.

The good news is that this too shall pass. According to my sobriety app, you’re past the withdrawal systems, and in the next week or so, you should start seeing improvements in things like your immune system, digestion and energy. Sleep should also start improving round about now. I wrote a post on stuff you can do to help your sleep improve.

And good idea on the mani/pedi appointment, treats and rewards are important.

Sleep - Lemmy.World

I mentioned in a comment that I would do a post about sleep, so here you are. Among its many, many other impacts, alcohol impacts your sleep horribly. Your body, instead of using its downtime to do cell repair and everything else, is pulling its resources to your liver to process the poison you’ve consumed. Fixing sleep is a process, it’s not a one and done. If you cut the booze and immediately start sleeping like a baby, you are very lucky, and lean into that, because everything is better with a good night’s sleep behind you. This is what I did. Some of this stuff involves spending money (weighted blanket, diffuser and oils, blackout curtains), but those are the ā€œnice to haveā€ items, not the essentials. I got a bit obsessive in the first month or two, because I didn’t want to get into ā€œcan’t sleep, I’ll just have a glass of wine to take the edge offā€, but I’m a bit more relaxed about it now because I didn’t want to get into a headspace where I can’t sleep unless I did all the things. For me, planning for sleep starts at lunchtime, which is when I stop drinking coffee or anything else with caffeine in it. I avoid sugary ā€œprocessedā€ drinks most of the time anyway, but I make a point of not drinking those after about 4pm. I’m also fairly active, I cycle between 100 and 120 miles a week, and on the days I don’t cycle to work it’s a mile and a bit walk to the Tube station, a mile and a bit back in the evening. I usually try to get out and walk round the park at lunchtime. If I’m working from home I’ll go out in the evening after work. I do a weights workout three times a week. this is all timed for being in bed by 10PM. I put all electronics into ā€œnightā€ mode at 9:30pm, which is my cue to stop looking at the electronics and start my winding down for bed routine, rather than an excuse to keep staring at the screens. Night routine is: - drink a mug of sleepy tea - Clean teeth, do facial skincare routine - pyjamas - close curtains (I have blackout ones) - switch on an electronic diffuser that’s loaded with a sleepy blend of oils - switch bedside alarm lamp to sunset mode, where it gradually dims to a tiny nightlight glow - get into bed, under weighted blanket - put phone out of reach but start a sleep meditation session (all the apps like Headspace, Calm, and Insight Timer offer free versions) - My bedside alarm goes off at the same time every morning, even at weekends. It has a sunrise setting so half an hour before I’m due to wake up, it starts getting brighter and brighter, and then it plays birdsong at me. - When it’s hot, I have a fan set up in the hallway outside my room so it’s not right in the room being noisy, but I still get the air moving (I live on my own, so having my bedroom door open at night is fine). - If I wake in the night, or if I can’t get to sleep, I lie there with my eyes closed, recognising that even if I’m not sleeping, I’m still resting. I don’t reach for my phone and start scrolling through. If it is within half an hour of my normal wake up time, I get up and start the day. - I don’t do lie-ins, once I’m awake for the day, I’m up and out of bed. That sorted it for me, but if it hadn’t worked, I’d have looked at herbal sleep remedies, if those hadn’t worked, I’d have talked to a pharmacist for advice, and if what they had suggested didn’t work, I’d have gone to my GP. Some of the stuff in the list above involves spending money if you don’t have them already (diffuser, oils, weighted blanket, blackout curtains, fancy alarm with sunrise/sunset setting). Fortunately, those are the ā€œnice to havesā€ not the essentials. Sleepy teas are mostly cheap, although it might involve a small investment to find ones you like. The important thing is that you start the routine at the same time each night, you start giving your body cues to wind down, you go to sleep in a room that’s as dark as possible, you wake up at the same time each day. It takes time, it’s not a one and done deal, it involves investing time and effort in yourself and recognising that even if one night is a ā€œfailureā€ you’re probably sleeping more than you think you are, and that even just lying in bed with your eyes closed means you’re still recuperating, and you try again tomorrow.

Thank you for that link, it was a good sleep routine post.

Good for you. Keep sticking with it. The sleep cycle and related energy does indeed work itself out based on my experience but as said, your system is recalibrating and balancing out. It takes a bit of time.

For me, I am in my third month and while sleep became more restful towards the end of the first month, it is only in the past couple of weeks that I have been getting solid almost uninterrupted deep sleep. But it is feeling great. Everyone is different.

I will try to dig up a link to a podcast on addiction that talks about this but what this particular researcher found was that journaling and self-talk about what you like about not drinking and what you don’t like about drinking really helps to reinforce the positive direction you are heading in.

IWNDWYT

Thank you, that was a good sleep routine post.
Thank you for the suggestion on the journaling and self talk. Now that I think about it, that is kind of how I quit smoking many years ago. I focused on parts of it that bothered me. Soon after quitting… I became pregnant and almost every time I smelled tobacco smoke, it gave me nausea which was an excellent reinforcer.
I dug up the pod cast related to overcoming addiction. Podcast name: Hidden Brain. Episode name: The Curious Science of Cravings. They are interviewing psychiatrist Judson Brewer. It ā€œairedā€ April 15, 2024. I believe he has written a book on his approach.
Congrats on day 5!! You should be through the worst now… it gets so much better!! 🄰