TotallynotJessicaShave your voice training
LifeInMultipleChoiceI’m tired, but my brain kept thinking there was 2 people asking if it was okay to sit in front of two invisible cloaked people, and then just stood there. It took me way to long to realize this was only two people 😅
dandelion (she/her)I, too, find this comic confusing - they seem to be standing rather than sitting, and I can’t make sense of what is behind them
It’s a pole with a strap, for standing passengers (it’s on a bus or train), I believe.
Ahh, I was thinking the can lights and seats looked like a fancy movie theater after a while, I couldn’t figure out that the pole was to hang on like the subway or such.
yay, you fixed the comic!
southsamuraiLegit though, even if it seems detectable, only an asshole is going to make any kind of deal about it.
I say it from time to time because it needs saying.
Y’all trans folks? You’re not only worthy of love and respect, but the very fact of trans people existing is a beautiful thing, and I am grateful for it. Whether or not I get along with every individual that happens to be trans, I love you folks. I value you, just as you are, no matter how that happens to be.
From the bottom of my heart, thank you.
What may be a bigger factor is that the body language of someone feeling uncomfortable is noticed and reciprocated empathetically by someone who empathises with you, automatically.
Genuine question - I don’t actually know how to signal allyship without looking like I’m pandering or being weird. I dress pretty professional/plainly on transit and figure a trans pin would be of place because I don’t have any other backpack decorations. Are there subtle things you guys and girls have seen that sends a positive message in a subtle way?
Honestly, when it comes to public transit, just don’t stare at us or treat us any differently. If you do have more direct communication with someone, you only need to signal allyship when it contextually makes sense, or when you think they actively need the allyship. Offering help at the right time is the sort of ally opportunity you should look out for. Other than that, just being cool, nonjudgmental person is all you need to worry about. If you’re chill vulnerable people will trust you.
Thanks for the advice, I really appreciate it.
The solution is to get more backpack decorations
The solution is to get more backpack decorations
I feel silly for not thinking of that. Thanks.
Truscape
riwomost people probably realise i’m trans but so what? >:3
nothing wrong with being trans. it’s not some horrible secret i’d need to hide
nothing wrong with being trans. it’s not some horrible secret i’d need to hide
I was dating a girl once and things were pretty good. She was at my place and random songs played from my playlist. She was outside with the dogs and when she walked in, transgender dysphoria blues by against me! Was playing, which happens to be one of my favourite bands/songs. She looked at it and had an odd reaction. I kinda shrugged it off. Some time later we were at a concert and she came over to me, pretty excited. I asked her what’s up and she pointed at some guy and was like: do you think that guy is a girl?? He looks like a girl. She had some diabolical excitement in her voice. I asked her why that matters and why she would care. She said because she just wants to make fun of them.
I was never in my life so disappointed in a person and my own ability to judge a character. We had a huge fight there and she told me that she can’t believe i would freak out because of “some tranny”.
I tried to explain to her that i spend most of my adult life going to concerts like this, where people can just be themselves without some random assholes judging them. We broke up and i never saw her again. It kinda shook my world, that “normal” people are just like this. People i “like” it’s so shit and no one deserves that.
SharkWeekPeople really are weird sometimes … I’ve had similar experiences where people come out with some random racism or bigotry, and it’s like “WTF, that was in them all along?!”
renegadespork“Okay, so I’m not racist, but… [the most racist and out of nowhere opinion that no one asked for].”
samus12345When I lived in Georgia I’d sometimes get guys at work telling me racist jokes since I of course must think they’re funny since I’m white. Get the fuck outta here with that shit!
GrailYeah it’s so weird that normal people can be evil. I’ve dated a lot of people, even inside the trans community, who turned out to be just awful.
“The banality of evil” definitely applies here.
If their thoughts are worth caring about, then they likely don’t care even if they can tell.
Something really bothers me about this.
What are they sitting on? Where are they?
A bus
THANK YOU!!! I wasn’t going to be able to sleep without figuring this out. The blue background had me assuming either sky or a pool.
I (nbish guy) get a weird excitement for women when I get the subtlest hint that they transitioned, like their voice, that genuinely shocks me. It makes me so happy for them and blows my mind how much transitioning, well, transforms a person. Its like seeing a person’s entire self actualization in a split second. Pride in a stranger.
Pride in a stranger.
This exactly!
Anyone have tips for chill ways to congratulate someone on living their best life?
I usually default to “I love your vibe!”, but I would be happy to have more options that might fit more situations.