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interdimensional_shartsYeah Iâm not sure what to tell yall, but happiness comes from within. If you attach it to mental formations (i.e. âThe only way I can be happy is with a boyfriend/girlfriendâ), then youâre gonna have a bad time.
UnderpantsWeevilhappiness comes from within
In my experience, having a constant companion has a positive feedback loop. People you can continuously interact with - joking, catching up, eating together, helping one another out, just NetflixânâChilling⌠itâs reaffirming.
But it is a loop. You donât just wake up happy forever. Thereâs ups and downs. Thereâs psychical and emotional adjustments. Youâre not immune to despair. You just have someone you can be glum around who - ideally - fills you in on the lows and rides with you for the highs.
If youâve got a bunch of mental baggage going into a relationship, your partner (ideally) helps you unpack that shit and dispose of it. Or, at least, shows you their own baggage, so you know youâre not alone. It doesnât just go away instantly, but over time you can put it behind you precisely because youâve got someone else in your life affirming your own worth.
I agree with all that, but Iâll also say that getting started fixing your issues first is a hugely valuable thing. If you havenât itâs so easy to think love will solve all your problems while not even having the tools to deal with your own emotions and baggage.
You need people, we all do, and we deteriorate rapidly without people. But romantic relationships are really easy to screw up by being emotionally unhealthy
Idk, Iâve never been happier than the six months I was dating this girl whoâs sex drive was almost as high as mine. Never been able to get there on my own and the other aspects of my life have been way better since then. Sadly her mental health was a mess and that relationship didnât last.
Youâd also be âhappyâ if you did cocaine for those six months. You are confusing getting high from dopamine hits with happiness.
All happiness is just dopamine hits. Itâs all stimulus and chemicals regardless of whatâs triggering it.
No, itâs not. Happiness is the action of self regulation. Happiness is choosing broccoli over a cookie because you know it is better for you.
Someone tied up to a machine being dosed by chemicals to âfeel happyâ would not be happy. Just like drug addicts, and other addicts, who are constantly chasing highs, are not happy people. They are fucking miserable, forever chasing and defining their entire life by those dopamine hits.