considering that gnome just deprecated X11, i have a weird feeling that my life is about to get even harder and more painful, unless I choose to conform to one of the mainstream ideal linux GUIs

wayland will be the thing which finally kills all the small WMs that still remain. I consider that to be a cultural disaster.

@domi on the other hand, new wayland are popping up. I think it's just that not all x11 compositors have devs interested in porting to wayland. But those that still have the devs are moving to wayland though some are very slow at that(such as budgie, xfce, lxqt)
@domi but relatively small wayland compositors won't disappear, they're now based on e.g.: wlroots, mir, smithay, libweston, etc or based on compositor toolkits built on top of some of those
@domi I could be wrong though ofc, time will tell.