I want to flag that I've decided to move towards replacing gendered pronouns in my speech and writing with they/them. The transition will take a while, but it is now underway.
If it's important to you to be referred to as he/him or she/her (eg you're trans and they/them feels like a denial of your internal sense of gender), please be a squeaky wheel. As always, I'll do my best best to remember and use your preferred pronouns.
But consider this;
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Even if I refer to you using a gendered third-person pronoun (she/he), I'm still going to use a genderless second-person pronoun when I address you as 'you', because in English I have no choice. Again, if your community has come up with gendered terms for this (eg shou/hyou), let me know, and I'll try to remember that.
But really, wouldn't we all be better off just dropping gendered pronouns altogether?
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@rupert
> As an old who was brought up proper, I try not to use people's third person pronouns at all
That's a really good point! I'm going to make an effort to do the same, at least in my writing. But third-person pronouns are useful when one doesn't know the name of the person to whom one is referring ; )
Strypey
Rupert V/