ChaoAmberHappy marriage through compromise.
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qyronA healthy relatinship is also one where both partners understand, respects and upholds the other’s right to have personal preferences and enjoy them.
The most basic show of respect here would be to have two separate jars of peanut butter, so both can enjoy their favorite.
Most people have pleasure when seeing their loved ones having pleasure themselves. It shows affection and care for the other and is a basic show of empathy.
It’s a good post for the laughs but it is a depressing admission for a relationship that long.
What are the consequences of the dude buying a separate peanut butter jar for him? Divorce? Accusations of lying and being unfaithful by thought?
If you’re going to get a divorce over peanut butter, you might be better off alone. But that’s just my political opinion.
Pat_Riot“We couldn’t possibly buy two jars of peanut butter.”
He doesn’t do the shopping. He could easily go to the shops himself.
Someone I listen to loves peanut butter but his partner is allergic, so he doesn’t have peanut butter anymore. I know the stakes are higher, but it’s more valid to match the solution. This post feels almost like intentionally suffering to make yourself a Martyr when the solution is very simple.
Peanut allergies are often sensitive enough to be triggered by trace amounts of peanuts in the environment, so completely eliminating it to keep a partner safe makes sense. The OP is clearly depicting a toxic variety of hetero relationships where guys refuse to make an effort at compromise and just say “my wife always gets her way.”
i get the bullshit of the joke. but many relationships aren’t about compromise, they are about who wins and who loses. and once you start losing you stay down, been in one of those. 5 suicide attempt later and I still get PTSD attacks.
A relationship shouldn’t be like that. If your partner makes you feel like this, leave them.
it got really abusive, but it’s hard to get out. kids were involved, and she had control of my finances, so no lawyer would even advice me. and as a guy there were no resources for me. When I call the cops because I was being beaten, all they did is tell me that if I touched her they’ll lock me up.
ish, divorce happened, I’m free, have an amazing friend group whom I adore and cannot believe they love me. but also afraid of ICE because US is a shit 3rd world fascist state. but that abuse is better than domestic abuse.
He didn’t claim the relationship had solid foundations.
Captain AggravatedMy mother likes Scott brand toilet paper. My father likes Charmin. My father installed a second spool holder next to the toilet. One is loaded with Scott, the other with Charmin. They’ll celebrate their 46th wedding anniversary this year.
If “we like different brands/styles of household consumable goods” isn’t a solvable problem, if you solve it by buying one of each kind so everybody gets what they want, and your partner goes to un-solve it…unpartner them, because they’re unfit.
I hate people like this because they’re just miserable on purpose.
My partner doesn’t like Marmite and I do. Solution, I buy Marmite and she doesn’t eat it.
Just buy the peanut butter you like, as well.
It lasts twice as long though
If both versions cost the same, it literally makes no difference
It is just peanut butter, not like he gave up on his hobbies. Unless ofcourse peanut butter is the one thing he is living for. To me it sounds like he can’t be bothered to deal with two jars of peanut all the time so he just said “eh fuck it”
For some people there isn’t another choice. It’s be in a relationship and be miserable, or be miserable and alone.
and a lot of people have control issues in relationships. they can’t be happy or secure unless the other person suffers.
I slowly wore my vegetarian wife down in to eating bacon and steak, and she taught me how to cook more fish and veggie only meals. Still cant get her to watch Anime with me though 😔
apotheotic (she/her)That’s pretty gross to own up to ngl, assuming your wife was vegetarian based on ethics
She was veg because that’s how she grew up, its not like I brainwashed her or something lol. Just being around a meat-eater led to her trying more meat and liking it.
I mean you’re the one that said you “wore [her] down”, your word choice
Sometimes hegemony arises and spreads through proximity, not agitprop.
I don’t deny that, just a weird word choice to use :)
This is me and stinky cheese :b
I love really intense cheese. The good shit. I have lived with the tasteless rubber cheese for half my life because my boyfriend hates stinky cheese.
It was to the point that he, until last year, actually believed that I only like mild cheese and when I told him no, that I absolutely adore the nastiest, stinkiest cheeses he was shocked and asked me why I never told him. Said I did, many years ago, but I didn’t mind giving up good cheese for his sake, because he has a very sensitive nose and I didn’t want him to be grossed out everytime he opened the fridge.
To his credit, he took me to a farm store not long after that conversation and bought me a block of delicious stinky cheese. He did wrap it in several layers of plastic and stuck it in an air tight container like it was a murder victim, but he wanted me to have some cheese I actually liked for once. I think it was really sweet of him because I know how much good cheese repulses him. Haven’t replenished my cheese stock since, but it’s nice to know that he’s willing to let me have it once in awhile.
Exactly what kind of stinky cheese are we talking here? Cuz I love cheese, just about any cheese. I grew up seeing Looney Tunes cartoons make fun of Limberger, and I once got a big bite of real Limberger without knowing it, and it really did taste bad.
OTOH, I LOVE bleu cheese of any kind, and it doesn’t get much ranker than that.
So what kind of stinky cheeses are you loving?
What a stupid thing. Like you can’t have 2 different jars of peanut butter in your fucking cabinets? My spouse prefers Jif, and I prefer Peter Pan. We have a jar of each in the cabinet. Because we aren’t emotionally stunted goblins pretending to be adult humans. God this tweet makes me irrationally angry. “haha, marriage is the worst, amirite guys?” ugh.
On the flip side, OP, I love the text you added in your post. That’s amazing.
Peanut Butter is $40 a jar! Nobody can afford 2!
When my wife wants to paint a room, she will go to several stores, and come home with dozens of white paint chips. Then she starts asking me which ones I like, and they all just look like white to me.
So I tell her to pick out her three favorites, and I’ll look at those, choose my favorite, and then paint the room whatever color she tells me.
It works.
It’s a thing.