Hoshino Lina (ζ˜ŸδΉƒγƒͺγƒŠ) 🩡 3D Yuri Wedding 2026!!!Mar 14

RE: https://oldbytes.space/@gloriouscow/116224004520766154

There's a larger issue here here, and that is that it's trendy in certain spaces to be extreme and opinionated about your beliefs, and angry at anyone who doesn't share them. I see this a lot on Bluesky and Mastodon.

The problem is, this is a slippery slope towards ending up in a tiny bubble and losing many of your friends. And that doesn't lead to happiness or to good mental health. Not for you, and not for the people around you.

The two biggest topics I see this with lately is AI and trans discourse. The simple fact is, morality isn't absolute. Words don't have absolute meanings. Tools aren't absolutely evil or absolutely moral.

It's okay to be sad at the state of the world. I'm sad too! And it's okay to be angry at problem people (think, the billionaire class). But when you direct that anger at your peers, just because they don't share the exact moral compass you have, you're just hurting them and hurting yourself.

It's impossible to live in a world where your social circle is fully aligned with you on beliefs and morals. It just isn't. It's okay to be disappointed. But if you start cutting people off for it, you aren't making anything better.

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Show threadHoshino Lina (ζ˜ŸδΉƒγƒͺγƒŠ) 🩡 3D Yuri Wedding 2026!!!Mar 14

In the extreme, you misfire, and misfire so badly you just end up isolating yourself. I've seen this happen multiple times recently, with people who saw what they perceived to be a moral slight or failing by someone they knew, and came out with knives swinging. Those never end well. At best you get blocked by one person. At worst you get called out for being completely unreasonable, and end up losing badly.

For better or worse, we need to work together. You can prioritize those closer to your ideals. It's okay to modulate your relationships based on how aligned you are on values. But that's the key word, modulation. If you care about someone and they make a moral choice that you dislike, the two healthy things to do are to either have a conversation about it (in private!), or just do nothing, accept the disappointment, and move on.

At the end of the day, outrage and anger might get you clicks, boosts, and a feeling of satisfaction... but are you really helping? Are you really making your life better in the long term? Others'?

I'm going to use an older example on purpose. Some time back, a friend expressed that she wanted to play and stream the wizard game, and I DMed her. I tried to explain why that would be so hurtful. And I convinced her not to. And I think that was a lot more productive than piling onto people who play the wizard game on the internet.

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@lina I think this might be a general problem with social media. There was this amazing talk by Daniel Kriesel where he said at the end that the most important social development in the 2010s was the "rise of the outraged". And it makes sense why. In general, humans like attention. And being polemic gets more clicks and replies than being solution-oriented. Social media is quite literally training people to have strong opinions. Let alone the group effect: "If people I respect lash out on the internet, maybe it’s not so bad when I do it as well."
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Show threadHoshino Lina (ζ˜ŸδΉƒγƒͺγƒŠ) 🩡 3D Yuri Wedding 2026!!!Mar 14

@sigmasternchen Yeeeeeah. And it goes across groups and political leanings (remember GamerGate?).

Having lived through the past 15 years, and perhaps even myself contributed to it in my own niche circles in the past, I'm just so tired of it all. These days I distance myself from people who make their entire personality about outrage.