Hoshino Lina (ζ˜ŸδΉƒγƒͺγƒŠ) 🩡 3D Yuri Wedding 2026!!!Mar 14

RE: https://oldbytes.space/@gloriouscow/116224004520766154

There's a larger issue here here, and that is that it's trendy in certain spaces to be extreme and opinionated about your beliefs, and angry at anyone who doesn't share them. I see this a lot on Bluesky and Mastodon.

The problem is, this is a slippery slope towards ending up in a tiny bubble and losing many of your friends. And that doesn't lead to happiness or to good mental health. Not for you, and not for the people around you.

The two biggest topics I see this with lately is AI and trans discourse. The simple fact is, morality isn't absolute. Words don't have absolute meanings. Tools aren't absolutely evil or absolutely moral.

It's okay to be sad at the state of the world. I'm sad too! And it's okay to be angry at problem people (think, the billionaire class). But when you direct that anger at your peers, just because they don't share the exact moral compass you have, you're just hurting them and hurting yourself.

It's impossible to live in a world where your social circle is fully aligned with you on beliefs and morals. It just isn't. It's okay to be disappointed. But if you start cutting people off for it, you aren't making anything better.

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Show threadHoshino Lina (ζ˜ŸδΉƒγƒͺγƒŠ) 🩡 3D Yuri Wedding 2026!!!Mar 14

In the extreme, you misfire, and misfire so badly you just end up isolating yourself. I've seen this happen multiple times recently, with people who saw what they perceived to be a moral slight or failing by someone they knew, and came out with knives swinging. Those never end well. At best you get blocked by one person. At worst you get called out for being completely unreasonable, and end up losing badly.

For better or worse, we need to work together. You can prioritize those closer to your ideals. It's okay to modulate your relationships based on how aligned you are on values. But that's the key word, modulation. If you care about someone and they make a moral choice that you dislike, the two healthy things to do are to either have a conversation about it (in private!), or just do nothing, accept the disappointment, and move on.

At the end of the day, outrage and anger might get you clicks, boosts, and a feeling of satisfaction... but are you really helping? Are you really making your life better in the long term? Others'?

I'm going to use an older example on purpose. Some time back, a friend expressed that she wanted to play and stream the wizard game, and I DMed her. I tried to explain why that would be so hurtful. And I convinced her not to. And I think that was a lot more productive than piling onto people who play the wizard game on the internet.

Show threadHoshino Lina (ζ˜ŸδΉƒγƒͺγƒŠ) 🩡 3D Yuri Wedding 2026!!!Mar 14

It took 12 minutes from making that post to the first reply accusing me of victim blaming and gaslighting, and a further 5 minutes for that conversation, where I attempted to be pragmatic and polite, to escalate to ad hominem (at which point I blocked them).

Edit: And looking through the thread and replies, there were multiple errors of judgement made by this person, including:

  • Taking my position as a direct affront on them (when I have no idea who they are and obviously am not referencing any specific situation they are part of)
  • Making assumptions about my background
  • Interpreting my usage of impersonal you as personal (despite being in the context of a hypothetical, which I used since I was not even clear on the stance of this person, as their replies were one-liners with no context).
  • Taking my suggestion to consider therapy (again, in an impersonal hypothetical context) as a direct accusation of being mentally unstable (almost everyone can benefit from therapy!)

And this is why coming out knives swinging is not going to make you any friends or convince anyone.

Show threadddgMar 14
@lina It feels like some people take their purity tests way too seriously, IMO. I understand that the way things are headed strong pushback is needed, but attacking / cutting off people who you're >75% in agreement with is not it.
Show threadHoshino Lina (ζ˜ŸδΉƒγƒͺγƒŠ) 🩡 3D Yuri Wedding 2026!!!
@ddg Yup. And it's actually entirely counterproductive, because this (which can be summarized as "leftist infighting") only serves to distract from the major problems we can all agree about. It makes us weaker, not stronger.
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Show threadddgMar 14

@lina Absolutely. It's not a new problem, either, but those people fail to learn from the left's past messaging / gatekeeping mistakes.

It's ridiculous how most of the things we defend are popular with the general population, yet that infighting prevents us from becoming strong enough to promote actual change.

Show threadChristian SchneiderMar 14

@ddg @lina It's just so utterly stupid. I have been watching leftists burn bridges from their moral highground for decades, yet the world is leaning more to the right than it ever has, so it's clearly not working.

Unless of course your goal isn't to make the world better/more leaning towards the left/socialness, but to be a "thought leader" in a tiny little petri dish no one else cares about.