U7826391786239Mar 13

call the shit off. there are plenty of not-pedophiles 25 or under for you to date

i guess i can see that most guys your age are childish/inexperienced, and that’s the appeal of “older” men. but let me tell you something (as a guy well over 45): if a dude hasn’t grown up by 25, then they’re not going to grow up. yea, there’s definitely a “type” of 30+ yr old dude who wants to hook up with teenagers, and i’d advise you against it.

there are plenty of non-creep dudes in your age group to choose from and would probably treat you like a queen.

be careful with this one– above all, stay in public, cover your drink

Show threadWombleMar 13
Can we please not demean the horrors of child sexual abuse by conflating it with two concenting adults going on a date, even if you find the age gap icky.
Show threadU7826391786239Mar 13
please tell me exactly what part of my comment conflates anything with child sexual abuse
Show threadWombleMar 13
The part where you call someone going on a date with an 18 year old a peadophile.
Show threadU7826391786239Mar 13
do you have kids? are you totally cool with your daughter going out with someone who’s closer to your age than to hers? the fact that so many people in here are cheering on this person over 30 hooking up with someone under 20 is really fucked up to me
Show threadWomble
You may be shocked to learn that there are positions available between loving the idea of your adult daughter going on a date with someone 10 years older than her and screaming “pedo!” at them.
Mar 13 at 2:31pmWeb
Show threadU7826391786239Mar 13

fair enough. i’ll concede maybe the 33 year old dating the 18 year old isn’t necessarily a “pedo”

going on a date with someone 10 years older than her

18 vs 33 is NOT 10 years. why would you try to change OPs situation into a 10 year age gap, when it’s literally 15 years? and before you say “what’s the big deal,” try that argument with a 30 yr old dating a 15 yr old– same age gap, only 3 years difference– what’s the big deal?

look, i usually don’t chime in on violet’s posts with old people advice, but in this case she specifically asked for advice, and my advice to ANY woman under 25 is this– be very wary of dudes 15 years older than you trying to get in your pants. take it or leave it

Show threadWombleMar 13

Thats fine, I’d agree with that advice, though I dont think its a 100% never ever do this under any situation.

My sole point was that a young woman going on an ill advised date should not be mixed up with children being raped, which is what you were doing by calling someone going on a date with an 18 year old a pedo.

Show threadU7826391786239Mar 13

you are correct in that 18 is technically “legal.” barely. my position is still that under 25 = kid, without the life experience to realize how fucking creepy it is for someone over 30 to pursue a teenager. again, subtract one year from each side (32 yr old dating 17 yr old), and your argument based solely on “legal age” no longer works.

ultimately OP does what she wants regardless, and it looks like the date is off, which makes me glad. as an old guy, i know guys, and i know the type of guy who actively goes after the youngest possible women. they are best avoided