i too love when a thing that makes me feel euphoric and accomplished that i achieved it is considered "unnecessary" to some tumblrite lunatic that demands it to be erased because they are hurt by it

sorry bub, you will not be taking that sweet victory of mine.

sorry that you're too much of a coward who doesn't fight back but i'm built different and said legal gender is, to me, a proof of winning an important battle much like soldiers get medals

do awards need a purpose other than be an award for achieving something? does everything need to be super deep to you in order to be deemed useful? so just because you don't get it, that means no one should be allowed to have it?

that's a mentality of a fucking 5 year old who didn't get their favourite toy and now wants everyone to stop playing with their toys

@m000gletje @eunews To be honest, I never thought of my ID documents as some sort of award. More like, something I need to carry on me to show I'm authorised to drive or to travel between countries.

I do understand that you felt a sense of achievement when you won the right to have the institutional recognition of your true gender. I acknowledge my privilege in that I did not have to fight the same fight you did.

I also don't think that barrier should have been there in the first place. Are you going to resent a future in which nobody has to fight for their true gender to be institutionally recognised, just because they don't have to fight the same way you did?

"if i can't have it, no one will" mentality, again are some of you just stuck in that phase of development or something?

my problem is that this piece of shit community hates people who actually do try their best to transition and win against the government - hell we now start calling people on HRT and post-surgery "transmeds", as if the very core tenet of transness that is physical transition is now Evil

it feels almost targetted to erase people who do actually transition in favor of those who chose not to, and consider them superior and "more inclusive". and i'm not taking that bullshit, i've been erased as a trans man several times by supposedly "my allies and comrades", i will not let them now erase me as a trans person who actually puts in effort to transition, including picking hard battles; because that desire of mine is stronger than bureaucracy

@m000gletje @eunews I'm done explaining how I see it, I don't think we will agree on that point.

I'm glad you got the institutional recognition you deserve and I'm sorry you had to fight for it.

i'm not taking bullshit from anyone who wants to take away what i fought for

including trans people themselves, you're not my comrades!!! fucking look how your kind treats fellow trans men or people who actually get to medically transition, just because we share a struggle doesn't make me your friend

@m000gletje @eunews @pq1r "Your kind" is crazy work like, The whole point of this movement is to move past the Binary gender system and get to a point where it doesn't matter anymore, anyone's free to do what they wish, and getting rid of Gender markers on ID is a step towards that, but instead of having a nice conversation about it you just went full attack mode on some random guy?

Chill out

i don't need to feel sympathy for someone just because youre trans

and yes, YOUR KIND, because the wider "trans community" has done an amazing job in excluding me throughout my entire life because i transitioned to what many of you deem "malicious gender"

also i couldnt care any less about "beyond the binary" when yall fucking fail to show up for your supposed binary siblings - or is transness now only for nonbinaries? and trans men/trans women need to go somewhere else?

you will rip my gender from my dead cold hands, over my dead fucking body, i fought for it and i'm proud of it, and i advise you to buckle up and do the same instead of trying to take away others' effort

(i wrote this response earlier but like. you knew i was non-binary before following me, right?)

ehhh not trying to dunk on you but i agree that it just isn’t necessary… no one’s stopping you from wearing pronoun badges or trans merch, and people have the right to choose if they want to be “cowards”. people are still murdered for being trans.

gonna switch this to followers only like the Coward™️ i am. (edit: i chose to do unlisted, if people see this, it is what it is) generally i’m open about being a non-binary lesbian.

gender is a fuck. i’m currently fighting a million battles to stay alive. i don’t want to think too much about my own gender or transitioning right now. there are A LOT of thoughts there and i’m not in a place to sort through them. they happen regularly but i generally try not to get to deep into them because i just can’t. (adding this now: before i came out my binary trans friend (now former friend) would shit on nb people for being “trans trender” and gave me a dirty look when i did come out. my friend has tried to get me to buy trans merch and i refuse because i feel fake even though im usually open about being nb. coward i guess idfk)

i currently “present,” i guess, like a cis female. my hair is long as fuck. not that guys can’t have long hair, but with so many things out of control in my life, my hair is something i can somewhat control. i’m having a biopsy for cancer in the coming weeks and that could take another thing away from me.

i’d fucking love to present masc and “try on” he/him pronouns for awhile to continue figuring out what the fuck is going on. i can’t wear a binder. i can’t even wear a bra. i have something wrong with my ribs and even slight pressure for a few hours can cause up to level ten pain for days where i can barely breathe and i cant even speak because those trigger the pain.

i can’t even fucking choose my clothes because i can’t even afford clothes.

my grandma, one of those most important people in my life, is 90 and isn’t getting any younger. i’m sure she would love me no matter what. but she is very religious. i don’t think she would force me to change if she knew. when she found out i was an atheist she was distraught because she was afraid God would send me to Hell. she did not try to change me or say i was evil or shame me. she just cried a lot, mostly on her own, and worried because she doesn’t want me to go to Hell. she also worried that God punished me with chronic illness because I’m an atheist, but I want to make it clear that she genuinely doesn’t seem to blame me. she knows I’m a good person with a good heart (even if I don’t always believe that about myself). i’m her only grandkid. mind you… she’s in Poland. she’s lived there her whole life.

i asked my dad if i should come out to my grandparents, and he was like haha, no, don’t. please. they’re too old. they’re already very worried about you. they don’t need more stress.

i think he’s got a point. they don’t even know about the potential cancer shit or the upcoming surgery. i don’t even tell them how much shit i’ve gone without because it would break their hearts and i know they’re struggling with money and i don’t want to burden them. i tell them yeah i’m sick but i tell them i’m living comfortably.

i really thought about changing my name and gender. then i remembered that they’d probably see my passport when i visit them.

if that makes me a coward, well… to be fair. i’m pretty open about the fact that i am a coward

if you enjoy being vocal about stuff then by all means continue, but if this upsets you i’d suggest taking a break. it’s not worth it