OldQWERTYbastardChildren who grew up teaching themselves because nobody had time to teach them often become adults who are extraordinarily competent and quietly resentful
Mog SpawnWe’re not all resentful, we just hate the people who refuse to advance themselves and adhere to some level of learned helplessness as their nominal state
When I date I meet women who are almost 40 who are still dependent on their elderly parents for basic adult shit, including paying basic bills like rent and food.
It’s pathetic. These people have good jobs too, they are just leeches.
I think you’re potentially looking at this wrong. They might be dependent… Or they might be in COMMUNITY with their families.
If they’re in their 40’s their parents are in their 60’s-70’s. Is it possible these adults have a relationship of give and take where they each lean on the other for different things? Maybe her dad takes care of car maintenance for the family, her mom manages medical needs and she manages other aspects of their shared lives?
Although it’s certainly possible, I find it hard to believe parents of a 40 year old are somehow coerced or guilted into an unfair arrangement.
Maybe we have different life experiences in this regard…
no dude. having your 65+ year old father do physical labor for you is dick move if you are 35.
BananaForcing him to do physical labour is a dick move if you’re 35. Your dad offering because he wants you to be safe and enjoys doing it? How is allowing him to do that a dick move? Sounds like the anger is coming from an assumption here.
No, it’s coming from experience of dealing with people like this for years now.