Doll at a kink grappling event said this to me, when I asked about low-effort femme makeup. "I don't always bother, especially at work. I just tell people I go by she/her, and you can use them or not, but if they don't it says more about them than me. You've got to pick the places where you want to be seen for who you are, but just know there will always be the community who see you, and appreciate you, regardless of how you look."