Everyone knows (or should that as fascinating as your dreams are to *you*, they're eye-glazingly dull to others. Perhaps you have a friend who will tolerate you recounting dreams at them (treasure those friends), but you should never, ever *presume* that other people want to hear about your dreams.

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If you'd like an essay-formatted version of this thread to read or share, here's a link to it on pluralistic.net, my surveillance-free, ad-free, tracker-free blog:

https://pluralistic.net/2026/03/02/nonconsensual-slopping/#robowanking

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The same is true of your conversations with chatbots. Even if you find these conversations interesting, you should never assume that anyone else will be entertained by them. In the absence of an explicit reassurance to the contrary, you should presume that recounting your AI chatbot sessions to your friends is an imposition on the friendship, and forwarding the transcripts of those sessions doubly so (perhaps triply so, given the verbosity of chatbot responses).

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I will stipulate that there might be friend groups out there where pastebombs of AI chat transcripts are welcome, but even if you work in such a milieu, you should *never, ever* assume that a stranger wants to see or hear about your AI "conversations." Tagging a chatbot into a social media conversation with a stranger and typing, "Hey Grok‡, what do you think of that?" is like masturbating in front of a stranger.

‡ Ugh

It's rude. It's an imposition. It's gross.

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There's an even *worse* circle of hell than the one you create when you nonconsensually add a chatbot to a dialog: the hell that comes from reading something a stranger wrote, and then asking a chatbot to generate "commentary" on it and emailing it to that stranger.

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Even the AI companies pitching their products claim that they need human oversight because they are prone to errors (including the errors that the companies dress up by calling them "hallucinations"). If you've read something you disagree with but don't understand well enough to rebut, and you ask an AI to generate a rebuttal for you, *you still don't understand it well enough to rebut it*.

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You haven't generated a rebuttal: you have generated a blob of plausible sentences that may or may not constitute a valid critique of the work you're upset with - but until a human being *who understands the issue* goes through the AI output line by line and verifies it, it's just stochastic word-salad.

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Once again: the act of prompting a sentence generator to create a rebuttal-shaped series of sentences *does not impart understanding to the prompter.* In the dialog between someone who's written something and someone who disagrees with it, but doesn't understand it well enough to rebut it, *the only person* qualified to evaluate the chatbot's output is the original author - that is, the stranger you've just emailed a chat transcript to.

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Emailing a stranger a blob of unverified AI output is not a form of dialogue - it's an attempt to coerce a stranger into unpaid labor on your behalf. Strangers are not your "human in the loop" whose expensive time is on offer to painstakingly work through the plausible sentences a chatbot made for you for free.

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@pluralistic
...This leaves me curious as to whether someone did this to you. >_>;
@pteryx Daily.
@pluralistic
Oh geez. Awful that you have to not only go through that, but so *much* of that.