Being mtf or ftm trans is conforming to gender stereotypes with extra steps. Abolishing gender stereotypes and letting everyone express themselves however they want would be far better for society overall.

I don’t mean that in a negative way and fully support respecting self identification because that has the best outcomes in the real world.

My controversial opinion is that if everyone has the right to self identification, I have the right to reject that identification. I am under neither logical nor moral obligation to accept another person’s beliefs about themselves or the world. Keep in mind I firmly assert that all people deserve to be treated with kindness and respect, I am making a descriptive not a normative statement. This is strictly a question of retaining the right to epistemological determination, “self identification” being based on that same exact fundamental premise.

I don’t fully understand. Can you give a concrete example? Like you meet someone who seems like a woman to you, they say they’re a man, and you’re like, “no, no, you’re a woman, I reject your self identification of being a man”?

I don’t see you as less of a person, I don’t see you as a bother, I don’t see you as challenging to my views or, a shock at all, really.

I guess the cold hard truth is that I just don’t care.

If you wear your gender as your first outstanding personality trait, it doesn’t speak much for the rest of you.

Do I care if you keep it up, don’t stop and tell everyone you know? Have at it.

It’s just not my business. It’s not important in the grand scheme of whether or not you’re an asshole or not.