Naga (he/him)After Dragonlet (now 9) came out to us in December as nonbinary (cf. https://toot.cat/@naga/115708931052881812 ), they're gaining more clarity.
As of this week they are exploring the idea of possibly being #agender.
Which set me thinking. When I talk about dressing femme or genderfuck, I routinely say that I am a cis man. And that's still the result of my self-examination.
But looking back on my childhood, I can see pretty easily that -- in a more open-minded generation, perhaps also needing more open-minded parents -- I could easily have followed the same path.
I remember sometimes in early elementary (ages 6-8ish, probably) wishing I were a girl, but also being ambivalent about that. More that I didn't like being a boy, and didn't know there was anything else.
In a similar vein, I've never been entirely het.
Really, I've never been highly invested in either my male gender or my (for a long time) self-perceived straight orientation. Neither was ever key to my identity. Like, for example, in my teens having sex dreams about both femme and masc people and not feeling at all perturbed about either in the morning.
Musings. And I'm happy with where I've ended up. But it's easy to see how I could have gone a different path. And so glad for Dragonlet that they can choose a different path.
David Howell