lumpenproletariat
meredith brooks
Feb 27 at 8:45pmWeb
Show threadBallShapedManFeb 27

Exactly!

“Guys” is gender exclusion.

“Nagging” is shaming women for asking someone to do what they committed to do.

“Pussy” is gender bias that women are weak.

It’s all bullshit.

For those who defend the use of any of these because we know what they mean, stop being a little shit. Just change! It’s not that hard.

Show threadbassomitronFeb 27
Idk, I’m not sure it’s really that deep in most modern vernacular. Out of all social issues, being critical of people using slang like this who don’t intentionally mean it to be gender exclusive or biased is a choice you can make. I just think there’s bigger issues facing women than “guys” and “pussy” slang.
Show threadBallShapedManFeb 27
I think anyone making meaningful efforts with material results in those areas probably gets a pass. For everyone else what’s their excuse?
Show threadlumpenproletariatFeb 27
It might not be the most pressing issue, but it is one of the ones we have the most direct control over changing. And it’s fucking easy to do.
Show threadlumpenproletariatFeb 27

I’ve always understood pussy (as in afraid, not the vagina meaning) to be related to cats?

I love the “I call everyone dude” shtick being responded with “So you fuck dudes?”. Shuts those type up pretty quickly.

Show threadBallShapedManFeb 27

I like thinking of it as cats.

I used to use dude a ton too. That seems to be a lot less negatively impactful for whatever reason.

Show threadparanoidFeb 27
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Show threadDragonTypeWyvernFeb 27

It’s definitely a gender thing. Pussy=woman=coward. Even if you do accept the cat angle, cats are still seen as feminine pets and of course it’s slang for vaginas so you’re right back at the gender based insult.

You’ll get lying, two faced trolls trying to pretend they mean “pusillanimous” by it as the etymological origin but no one seriously believes them.

Show threadTomtitsFeb 27

Nagging doesn’t always have to do with commitment.

Hypothetically speaking, if I asked you for a cigarette every 15 seconds that would be considered nagging.

Show threadBallShapedManFeb 27
Fair point. Though I’ve never heard the phrase being used towards a man.
Show threadTomtitsFeb 27
I’ve got several male mates who are moany, naggy bastards
Show threadBallShapedManFeb 28
😂
Show threadRebekahWSDFeb 27
I’ve usually heard it as pestering if directed at a guy. And it’s usually nagging if it’s about chores. Although I’ve also heard pestering directed at women. So it mostly seems chore based.
Show threadJarixFeb 27
Betty White had a great take on “Pussy” forgive me not remembering it correctly, but she joked more than once that it’s strange to use that word to call someone weak, those things take a pounding and usually, ask for more!
Show threadBallShapedManFeb 27
I totally agree with her! Call someone balls or scrotum or something. As someone who’s old enough to have sat on one once, those fucking things are weak sauce! 😭😭😭
Show threadJasonDJFeb 28
I do think calling someone a “scrotum” is an insult, but not one that implies being weak.
Show threadJasonDJFeb 28
Can I call you a dickhead?
Show threadMehBlahFeb 27
How is being called a asshole keeping you down?
Show threadZamboni_DriverFeb 27
I don’t think that slut is an attack. I am a slut. I love slutty people.
Show threadDragonTypeWyvernFeb 27
I mean you can try and take slut back but it won’t stop it from being meant as an attack
Show threadlumpenproletariatFeb 27
Are you a woman?
Show threadDharma Curious (he/him)Feb 27

It blows my mind that slut is still used as an attack on women. My family and my circle of friends have used the term playfully amongst each other, but as I got older and more involved in politics and realized that, no, there are people who legitimately believe in this myth that sluttiness is somehow immoral or stains a woman, that blew my fucking mind.

I mean, my parents weren’t exactly labeling themselves sex positive, but had I ever suggested that a woman was somehow stained or immoral or whatever else these people associate with “sluts,” my mama would have whooped my ass from here to a feminist bookstore.

Seriously, sex is fun. It’s fucking great. It’s exercise, it releases the fun chemicals, it’s a way to bond if you want to be bond, it’s a way to pass an evening in a new town if that’s all you’re in it for. Use protection, make sure you’re not bringing a murderer home, and go have fun.

Show threadchonglibloodsportFeb 28

Always thought friendzone was when one person was exploiting the power differential caused by non-reciprocated romantic feelings and calling it a “friendship” when it’s really an abusive sort of relationship.

If someone has unrequited feelings for you and is struggling to get over it then you need to be clear with your rejection of them and give them space to get over it. If they reject your rejection then they are being problematic. But if you can’t give them space then you are being selfish.

Romantic rejection involves a grieving process and it’s normal to need space to go through it. If the person who rejects you can’t give you that space you need then they are not your friend.

Show threadceoofanarchismFeb 28
Women should say what i want them to say and this is retroactive.