InfiniteGlitch

How do I make decision myself?

https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/64498328

How do I make decision myself? - Divisions by zero

I find it extremely hard to make decisions myself when it comes to purchasing things, I end up always being in the middle and then ask close families opinion to form my own opinion. I know why, I have this issue but don’t know how to solve it. I’m quite certain it is because of the past. One of my parents would always end up scolding me and/ or being extremely aggressive when I made a wrong decision. At the end of the road, that one parent just made the decision for me. Now I’m an adult and I find it super hard to make decisions. Always worried that I might make a wrong decision, even when I’m sure nothing bad can happen. The worst thing that could happen most of the time is wasting money but, I made sure that it will never get me financially unstable. Bit lost with this and thus made this OffMyChest.

Feb 27 at 3:09pmWeb
Show threadthemachineFeb 27

As someone with no such mental barriers you’ll have to take take my words with a grain if salt. I’m certainly not ever looking to make purchase something that is crap/doesn’t work/is useless. I do as much research as i can on the item, think about how I expect to use the item, and try to think about what may work and not work about the time.

If I can’t come up with a strong objective reason to not get it then I buy it. Generally you can return most things so if I’m particularly hesitant about something due to too many unknowns I’ll just make sure I can return it. Sometimes there may be a few but I consider that the price of the lesson.

There is also nothing wrong with asking the opinions of others if you know nothing about it and you know someone who might. People ask me about computer and electronics purchases because I have a lot if experience and can typically advise them of things they didn’t consider.

What I don’t do is ask people who know little to nothing about whatever the item is and then base my own opinion entirely on their uneducated one.

At the end of the day though you really just have to allow yourself to make mistakes. There’s nothing wrong with that and is often the one if the best ways to learn something.