Can you buy 'smart' plugs that don't connect to the Internet, but only wireless & batteryless buttons like the ones they have on buses these days?

@PetraOleum

Yes, there are tons of the things that use the 433 MHz (or 3xx MHz) remotes. Many are programmable, so you can use remotes of your choice - multi-button pocket fobs, ones you stick on a desk or the wall, ones that mount on the wall and look like a normal lightswitch, etc.

They're cheap, so the big brands don't do them - they want to sell you the connected type (and probably a subscription), but you can find them on your local cheap & cheerful Chinese tat site.

If you're familiar with Big Clive, he's done a bunch of videos on these types of things - how to use them, teardowns, autopsies of dead units, etc. You can try searching his (large) back catalog with something like:

https://www.youtube.com/@bigclivedotcom/search?query=remote

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@cazabon of course big clive would have videos on this. I will have to be very careful though, I don't like the idea of buying things off the Internet that work with more than 5V usb, which a lamp control would need - better to have a local retailer to complain to if the house burns down

@PetraOleum

That's definitely a valid concern. If you watch the teardown videos, Clive tends to point out which ones are safe and which are not - but if you still don't want to take a chance, that's understandable.

The only components in these that need to deal with the mains electricity are the load relay (which are pretty safe, and there's no way for the mains to get across to the low-voltage control side) and the tiny power supply for the control circuitry. And since it's wireless, there's nothing to touch where you could get a shock.